2 BEST WAYS TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE

 

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

An ambitious corporate woman strategizing her success in life CREDIT/Anna Shvets

What's In Research?

If research rules out a smart head, then what do you need to succeed in life? Success in our context is not just about accumulation of wealth but rather overall satisfaction in life. There are several case studies in society that captures real people who have built wealth. They have acquired a lot yet having all that wealth might not necessarily mean they are successful in life. Success in life is strongly linked to childhood influences. Children with strong emotional health stand a big chance of succeeding in life. The second factor to succeed is about the behavior as an adult. Intelligence is the least determinant of finding success in life. Therefore, if you are looking to succeed in life as an adult. Forget about your brains and start looking into your physical and mental health. Figure out what is going on in your mind. And ask yourself if you are the right person. If life gave you a chance, will you succeed with your current mental status?  

Emotional Health

Emotional health as a success factor is necessary. Children who enjoy stable environments become great human beings. They not only mature emotionally at an early age but also learn effective response. The the best ways to react and respond to triggers in life. If a child can figure that he or she does not need to join every fight. That is progress. It means the child is thinking. And not responding with emotions. This the key reason why research suggests that emotional intelligence contributes to become becoming successful in life. Children who learn to manage their emotions at an early age succeed as adults. And you understand that finding satisfaction in life does not come easy. You need to feel comfortable in every aspect of your life. Satisfaction in life has everything to do with your physical and mental health. If you are not satisfied with what you do every day in life. Your chances of finding success in life is not good. If you are the type of person with unstable emotional health. Your success will be impacted negatively.  

If you are someone that reacts to everything that upsets you. Your physical health will be impacted. Because you will be hosting the wrong energy. You will have a lot of disappointment. Your focus will not be on the right things. You will spend most of your time on the things that upset you. And that is not a healthy way to live life.  I know you have heard of highly intelligent people who cannot control their emotions. People who are super bright but suffer from poor management of their emotions. As a result, they waste a lot of time reacting rather than reasoning. And while in that state of emotional outburst, their judgment is impaired. The quality of decisions they make is not good. Poor emotional management can ruin a good team. Such people can lose talent because they lack control. They engage in wanton destruction of property because they are angry. You have seen people who break and destroy things because they are angry. And I believe you have also seen someone who breaks other people because of anger. When it comes to emotional health, anger is not the only problem. There are other problems such as, lashing out, envy, and lack of self-control.

Man celebrating life. Photo/Min An

You have also seen people who are emotionally attached to things. They are so attached that small setbacks disorient them.  They lose track and at the same time, destroy a lot of things. You cannot succeed if your emotional health is poor. You cannot succeed if your physical and mental health are poor. You need your emotional, physical, and mental health to succeed. When you suffer from any of the three things, your quality of life is not good. Your overall satisfaction in life is low. And your chances of succeeding are also low. You have to overcome some significant hurdles to make progress. If your emotional health is poor.  You will have a hard time working with people. You will struggle to keep a strong team. You will also have problems navigating out of challenges. A lot of time will be wasted on irrelevant things.

People with emotional immaturity waste a lot of time. They waste time weaning and blaming others. The mere fact that they react with situations make it difficult to make progress. Their emotional outbursts prevent them from working with reality. They fail to see the underlying causes and react with people they think caused the problem. In the process, they spend a lot of time talking about the problem. By the time an emotionally immature person gets to the real issues. A Lot would have been messed up. Relationships will be broken. Feelings of other people would have been hurt. Disrespect would have been recorded. The environment would have turned toxic. By the time this person calms down. The most important people on the table would have left. The words uttered will have done their damage.  Yet all one needed was to think before reacting.  

Getting knocked off with issues like that impacts your success. You never attain the full success potential you deserve. When you are emotionally unhealthy, you destroy as you build. Your emotions become your biggest  obstacle. Inability to control emotions cost people. Don't allow things that you can control get you out of proportion.  You might find success but your chances of blowing it up are also high. As a result, you need to check your emotional health. If you are looking to be successful in life, start with fixing your emotions. You don’t need to react with circumstances you don’t like. Don’t lash out at people. Don’t disrespect people because you are angry. Don’t destroy other people’s property because you are envious. Do not be emotionally involved with circumstances. You will affect your health. And being in a poor mental health will stall you.  You will not enjoy life. You will not find satisfaction as an adult. Work on your emotions.

A successful lifestyle. Photo/Tima Miroshnichenko

Your Behavior

You need to pay attention to behavior because it goes a long way in life. A child’s conduct determines the success rate. You need to understand that what you learn as a child germinates. The influences that you went through as a child will shape your adulthood. When children learn to differentiate between right and wrong, they learn to choose carefully. Parents have a responsibility to guide and help their children develop the right behaviors. Children who receive the right correction mature early. They grow up knowing restraint. They understand the importance of boundaries. They live as regulated people. They understand accountability. They see danger and walk away. They also know how to interact with other people. And they know when to withdraw from conversations and practices that do not fit them. People who received correction at the right time and learned to behave have high chances of success. 

When you know your limits, you know when to leave. This means a lot because success life itself has its limits. And sometimes, those limits are your character. Behavior builds and destroys good things. Choose carefully. Watch yourself. Be careful about the values you embrace. Think through stuff. The things that you entertain have everything to do with your success or failure. As an adult, you need to choose your values and behavior carefully. You have freedom and choices. In fact, a long list of things to choose from. The list that you choose from gives you permission to be anything. Don't become anything. Choose only what fits you. Cut your coat according to your size. Be specific of what you want.  Don’t be over ambitious. Be yourself. Choose that which defines you. Allow your behavior to shape you. To make you the right person. The kind of person that can build something and keep it.

You don’t want values that normalize corruption. You don’t want values that nurture abuse. You want to be level-headed. You want to be a better thinker. You want to make progress. Choose values and traits that make you a whole mature person. A person that knows how to differentiate between right and wrong. Be the person that builds success using the right paths and resources. Use the right way to attain success. Allow your behavior to guide you through the journey.  Have some discipline. Some professionalism. And a spirit of excellence. Be honest. Be intentional about being a good person. Be deliberate about respecting other people. Don’t be greedy while on the path of finding success. Work hard. Think. And solve the right problems. Good behavior will take you to the top.

Succeeding in life has short cuts and the long way. Choose the right way. If you are impatient, you can try the short cut. And see what you will achieve a long the way. Choose carefully. Your behavior has everything to do with how you become successful in life. Your values determine how you approach the quest Look into your childhood experiences. See how your socialization as a child influences your adulthood.  Are you generally a good person? Think about it. Assess everything. And throw away what does not serve you. Eliminate all things that do not support your quest to be successful in life. Fix your emotional health. Let go of strong emotions. Regulate your behavior. Choose practices that contribute to your maturity. Embrace habits that make you an honest person. Succeed in life using the right tools and means. Mind your emotions. Grow up first before you seek success. This way, you will keep and build several tall buildings.