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  GOAL SETTING A college loving kid proving that he is not Nothing /Photo Courtesy /Tara Winstead Nothing? There comes a time in life when a kid has to grow up. And start making decisions. Life changing decisions for that matter. Decisions such as, going to college. And preparing for life’s biggest responsibilities. During this critical time. Parents are usually on the edge of their seats. They are on the edge because they are afraid of hearing some things. Kids have graduated high school and some have received invitations to some of the best colleges in the country. Parents in most occasions, want to keep the college conversation going. They want to talk about their kids’ college choices with their friends and neighbors. College conversation is a good conversation. Because most parents think that going to college is a window of opportunities. And to some extent it is, especially for those students who want to go to college. Kids that have already visualized the kind of professio...

WE FOUND A STORY FOR YOU

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STORY FOR YOU
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Parenthood Problems

We had such an amazing time sharing with you our episodes. The Fall series was a blast. And to culminate a successful 'season,' we went back, and found a story for you. This is not just any other story. It is a story of our society. A story from our environment. It looks at the social challenges in our current generation. A story that questions modern parenthood methods. And most important. It is a story of a troubled girl. A girl with a problem. A girl that perhaps, the society is ignoring since she is putting up, quite a show. It is very devastating to see children go through different challenges. Challenges that point to the fact that parents are failing. They are failing because they are not being parents when they are needed. Some parents have abandoned their children.

There is nothing pretty in watching ill-equipped children raising themselves. The dangers that stand in their way of growth are numerous. It does not matter how hard the parent is working to provide. Giving a child everything he/she needs does not eliminate the fact that a parent is absent. In most occasions, children don’t care about having everything. They care about having someone in their lives. Someone that protects them when they need that protection or when they don’t need it. It is the warmth of a parent. The warmth that assures the child that nothing will come in between. That the child will always be a priority to the parent. And will be chosen above everything else. The concept of being present is the current struggle for many modern parents. Their lives have become so busy. They are busy working.

And they have forgotten their primary responsibility. Walking the child every step of the way. Guiding and correcting the child. And loving the child unconditionally. Children need this warmth to grow and develop healthy experiences about life. And grow up with confidence and trust. However, modern parents are struggling. They are struggling with choosing between their careers and their children. Some have found the balance while others are struggling. The struggling parents have created threats for their own children. Their children are growing up with mixed emotions. They are not sure if they matter enough to their parents. The children are not sure that they are deeply loved. So they are growing up with divided views about parenthood. Parents on the other hand, are working hard. They are working to prove that they love their children.

They are doing their parental roles. Providing for their children and seeing to it that they have everything they need. The only thing that is missing in the equation is themselves. They are not present. They are not in the lives of their children every day. The children are doing everything for themselves. And this means that these children have been robbed the luxury of being just children. They cannot be normal children because they have responsibility. They have been forced into performing adult roles. They are chewing more than they can handle. And this is difficult. For example, when they come home from school, there is no one to welcome them home. No one to ask them how they are doing or how they are feeling. No one is asking about how school is making them feel. Whether they are enjoying being in school or not.

A STORY FOR YOU
Excited parents enjoying family time with their baby/Credit/Agung P. Wiguna
Therefore, the story we found is about the failings of modern parenthood. It is not just the failings but also the effects of those failings. Some children have been impacted negatively by the absenteeism of their parents. And they are in the process acting out a lot. The main character in the story we found is a perfect example. The character suffers from a common problem that all abandoned children suffers from. To counter the problem, the main character has put out a show. Her quest in the show is to feel seen and heard. As a result, the main character has put herself out there. And she is doing all sort of things. Things that can be concluded as dangerous. Things that children her age should not be doing. She talks to everyone. And she seems to pull almost everyone on her side. She is comfortable this way.

When all the attention is on her and she is privy of almost everything that goes on in the neighborhood, she feels alive. The character is at the center of all gossip and she sees nothing wrong because that is her coping mechanism. She is running away from the fact that her parents are absentee parents. That she does everything for herself. And it seems like the weight is too much to handle. To escape these burdens, she has to prove that she too exists. As a result, the main character is mixed up in so many issues. For example, she does not have her own identity. Her behavior and actions are mainly influenced by the social environment. So she is a fragment of everything good and bad going within the environment. It is an ugly scene to watch. And she has found enablers of everything bad you don’t want on your teenager.

It is a distressing reality. A reality that questions the preparation and vision of parenthood. The image in the story we found demonstrates that some people were not cut out to be parents. And that parenthood was not meant for everyone. The story calls for a moment of reflection. A reflection of how you make decisions. A reflection of how you approach serious issues in life. And on another front, a reflection of where society is headed. If, a section of children in the same society have to grow up with psychological problems. What are parents getting wrong? Becoming parents when they are not ready or doing things because everyone around them is doing it? Did some parents become parents because they wanted it or because that was what everyone was doing? That is the story we found for you. And by the way, remind us to share the story.    

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