FOR WHO YOU ARE

 

BUILDING BETTER HABITS

A handsome man defining who you are /Photo Courtesy /Vanessa Garcia

What Do I See?

I would like to know you. Like know you for who you are. So I am looking at you. I really need to see you. When there are no masks. When you are not at your best behavior. I would like to see you for who you are. Time has removed barriers. The ground has been leveled. We are now in the same environment. In a place where you don’t need to wear a mask. We are in a place where you just need to be you. So when I look at you in a setting where you are supposed to be just you. What do I see? A caring person? Someone who respect others; when they don’t want to be bothered? When you are supposed to be just you. Are you a modest person? A good person that anyone can enjoy your company? Or someone who abuses privileges? One that takes advantage of proximity. And upset others on purpose.

If I see you for who you are. What do I see? Because when you are in a safe environment. A place where you are relaxed. Where you are not under pressure to act this way or that way. We will definitely know who you are. And you are not what you project when you are in public. In your safe space. I see insecurities. I see pretense. A disrespectful person. One who only respects when circumstances are convenient. When you see what you want from others. You respect those things not the person. You are more interested in the material things than the person who owns the material things. Such that when something happens. And the person you pretended to love and respect loses material possession. You lose respect for that person too. Because he or she no longer has what you want.

And since, the person has lost the attractive attributes that you were attached to. You no longer respect. You longer love. Instead, you want this person to have a much worse day than the last one. And as if that is not enough. You are saying whatever you want to say. And behaving terribly around this person. In fact, you have loosened up. And now everything that you thought you guarded so well, has been exposed. You were putting up a show. A people pleasing show. A show where you were the main character. And your role was to portray yourself as someone who respects, listens and is so responsive. However, now that the show is over. I see an irresponsible person. A careless speaker. An ignorant person. I see someone who thinks he knows so much. Argue about everything. And walk all over everyone. And thinks there would be no consequences.

You Burned Bridges

Skilled professionals seeing who you are /Photo /RDNE Stock project

But this is real life. How can there be no consequences? When you have painted a clear picture of your real self. You have burned all bridges in a single sitting. Yet, the person you are looking to upset on purpose. Has nothing against you. The person only speaks the truth. And by the look of things. You don’t like the truth. You don’t want to correct mistakes. You don’t want to take responsibility for your own actions. But again. What can we expect from someone who is one thing in the morning, and the next thing in the evening? Does this kind of person know honor? When you lack integrity to this extent. Do you even know what respect is? What about restrain? Can a person of this caliber know his or her limits? Think about it too. Who are you to people? What are people to you? Do you see human dignity or material possession?

Was money all that you cared about? And the things the person could do for you? Now that these things are missing. The person has lost his worth. You come on. Fix yourself. We have a long way to go. And in the future. Your insecurities will not work. Double standards will not be needed. People-pleasing skills will not work. Because if you are disrespecting now. Don’t respect later. Your respect later will not make sense. You have already been unmasked. The person knows who you are. When you failed to respect during moments when people didn’t want to be bothered. You lost your respect too. You saw people within your proximity and thought you could level up with them. So you could not listen when they said something. Your focus was getting even.

You thought they came for a fight. But no one came for a fight. Someone was having a bad day. And they thought they could be safe in your environment. Someone thought you had their back. Even when they did not look as attractive as, you wanted them. But alas! You shocked us. The aggressiveness. The arrogance. The shouting. The disrespect. They stood out so boldly. And so elegantly. At this point. You cannot convince us that those characteristics just happened. This is who you are. This is who you have always been. A little hidden devil. And now that you got the opportunity. You are not wasting time. All your claws can be seen. They are ready to hold. To upset. And disturb the peace of other people. You are ready to make other people angry. But for what purpose? Because people will eventually leave.

Nobody Forgets Feelings

A dedicated executive seeing people for who they are /Photo Courtesy /Monstera Production

Whereas, they will move on to other important things. They will not forget how you made them feel. And that alone, will make them create a distance. They will want nothing to do with you. You will no longer be good company. Your immaturity will have done the job. You allowed your insecurities to lead. At a time when people just needed to be left alone. At that time. You just needed to be a friend. A caring person in their corner. When people wanted to be understood. You disrespected them. And sought to step on their toes multiple times. When someone only needed family. You were not family. Instead, you projected yourself as a competitor. A sort of an enemy. To someone who did not need competition. But you resented. And revealed your every disgusting side. No one asked for that.

But your insecurities reared their ugly head. And you could not contain them. And as a result. You no longer have a secret. That was a short period. You only needed to be set in the right environment. And your own safe space. Your own home was what people needed to see you. What a shame? Home is supposed to home. Warm. Loving. Welcoming. And calm. But you made home look filthy. So nothing delicious came out of home. Food never looked intentional. Because no one was cooking it from the heart.

There is nothing intentional here. Things are done for convenience. And if there is no ‘what is in there for me.’ There is no service here. There is no love. There is no warmth. No security. Guests in this home are exposed. Because there is no leadership. People speak at the same time here.  I am not sure if you thought about tomorrow. Because after all this fracas. How am I supposed to look at you tomorrow?