DIFFERENT PHASES DIFFERENT PEOPLE

 CULTIVATING GROWTH MINDSET

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We acknowledge that we are very different people. And as different people, we are in different phases. We are all dealing with different things. Different desires. Different challenges. And different people altogether. In all these differences, we hope that you find grace and compassion to treat yourself fairly. That you acknowledge the differences among people. And treat other people with empathy and compassion. Life is huge. It has different faces. And not everyone is having a good time. Not everyone is having his/her way in life. Some people need compassion. Some people need to be understood. They are not having a good time. Life is not treating them justly. But they have decided to look forward. They want to develop resilience. They want to find a pathway to make progress. Don’t be the one upsetting them.

Don’t be the one also distressing yourself. If, you are not having a good day. Don’t get upset about it. Instead, find grace to face whatever you are going through in a calmer and peaceful manner. I know it is difficult to remain calm when things are not working. It is difficult to adapt to a new thing, especially when that new thing is making you uncomfortable. But life is not for the soft-hearted. It is complicated. It sometimes serves its ugly bitter side. Find kindness in your chaos. Have empathy on others. You need time to think again. They need time, to go back to the drawing board. You need time to find out what went wrong. They thought that they have mastered this game. You thought that you are a master at your craft. But life happened. And now you are not feeling good. They are not feeling good. You want to be left alone. Leave them alone too. They want to go through their emotions in peace.

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You want to go over your thoughts in a safe space. Create a safe space for other people too. Different phases different people calls for compassion. It calls for nonjudgment. People are hurting under the surface. They are trying to be brave. But they would appreciate space. You need to understand that. And increase your level of empathy. If, you understand that people are in different phases and circumstances, your behavior will change. You will not hurt intentionally. You will not be insensitive. You will not be a careless speaker. You will think through what you say. You will remain silence where silence is needed. You will understand. You will provide support. You will pave way. You will leave people alone. You will deal with them graciously. You will be compassionate. You will listen.

Different phases different people calls for some level of understanding. An understanding that people have different perspectives. That people respond to things differently. Some get overwhelmed in their phases. Some develop resilience. While some don’t know what to do. Some can be lost. Some can run to temporal solutions. Things that get them out of their pain. Something that help them forget their worries even for just one minute. They are postponing their solutions. They want to escape. But you, rise your standards. Stop being insensitive to people dealing with different things. Don’t lose it when you are having a rough moment. Don’t choose easy. Don’t run away from your emotions. Feel them. Interact with them. Have some grace while at it. Acknowledge that you tried. You thought you had figured it out.

But there were blind spots. There were unforeseeable things you did not consider. There were risks that did not look like risks. You developed solutions for the risks that did not demonstrate themselves as risks. However, your approach was not enough. These risks needed something else. Something that you did not have then. Now, after working so hard, whatever, you wanted fixed is still not fixed. And you are upset. Feel the disappointment. Test the possibilities of failure. Go through these emotions with care. Treat yourself fairly. This time, you did not anticipate well. You made mistakes. You can see the mistakes that you made. Don’t start cussing. Face your emotions with compassion. This is not what you wanted. But it is happening. It is your different phase. Face this phase with calmness and understanding.

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The calmness you need to go through your disappointing day, is the same calmness another person needs to go through a different phase. Their phase is not like yours. Or it could be like yours. But you are different people. Your reactions are not the same. Your environments are not the same. Your thoughts are different. You live in different worlds. Treat yourself with care. Treat other people with care. Treat other people with empathy. Treat other people with understanding. Just like what you will want when you are having a bad day. You want to be left alone. You want people to stop bothering you. Other people need what you need, when you are having a rough day. Space to pull themselves together. Time to regroup. Privacy to grief. Peace to find a new path again.

People stumbled and they want time to find their way back. So, they are going about their life not in good mood. They are concerned about something. They are worried about the possibility of failing. The possibility of losing everything. The possibility of things not coming to normal. People are worried about having to start all over again. They have exhausted their resources. They are stressed out. They are thinking hard. You are thinking hard. And you just want the world to leave you alone. This is what different phases different people is calling for. The knowledge to acknowledge that people are different and facing different things. The world needs to be kind. The world needs to be compassionate. It needs to give people space. People want space to come to terms with their circumstances. Give people space.          

Give people empathy. Give people kindness. Give people grace. Give yourself grace. Give yourself kindness. Handle, the not so good moments with empathy. Deal with your phase graciously. What you wanted to happen did not happen today. However, if, you treat yourself good when you are feeling bad, you will find opportunities. You will find peace. You will find new energy. You will find motivation to start again. You will access opportunities to keep going. You will become strong. You will learn from your phase. You will develop resilience. You will find a path. You will make progress. People will make progress if, they are less bothered. Once they are done with emotions, they will think better. You will think better. You will be more cautious. They will see what they did not see. You will learn.

Different phases different people will teach you how to treat people and yourself. You will understand when understanding is needed. You will give space when space is needed. You will treat people better. You will treat yourself better. You will find calmness to face your phase. You will give people peace to find their way out. You will be there when they need you. You will support your loved ones. You will support strangers. You will be kind to other people. You will stop judging without knowledge. You will mind your language. You will mature up. You will level up. You will grow your empathy. You will help the world become better. You will lower your level of toxicity. You will care about the feelings of other people. You will be sensitive to other people’s needs. You will become a better person. You will treat other people with dignity. You will respect and walk away when not needed. Different phases different people calls for compassion. Be compassionate. To yourself and others.