THINGS WE DON'T WANT TO SOLVE

 

BULDING BETTER HABITS

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 Courage is Missing

Things we don’t want to solve, yet they are eating into our health, joy, freedom, and happiness. How interesting is that? That you have a problem but you don’t want to solve it. You shelf it every time you think about it. The problem is hurting you but you still don’t want to solve it. Something is holding you back. You have been disappointed enough. You have lost faith. You just don’t trust people who say they can solve the kind of problem you have. And you are on the verge of accepting your fate. You want to live disappointed. You want to make peace with your problem and accept it as part of you. You have tried enough. You have done so many things. But the solutions have not been forthcoming. So you want to give up. You want to accept pain. Accept discomfort. Accept living below expectations.

The problem bothers you so much. But you are not willing to seek help. You are not ready to solve it. Whereas, some people have tried, others have done nothing about their problems. They fear that perhaps, the condition they are suffering from could be worse. And they don’t want to deal with bad news. Fear is holding them back. You don’t want to see the doctor. You don’t want to get a diagnosis of your condition. It has been ten years of bad experiences. You are not happy. You are not comfortable. Something is bothering you. You are hiding from your true self. The problem is hindering you from living an authentic life. A life that you enjoy. A life of freedom. A life where you can do anything. Anything in your mind. However, fear has taken toll on you. You don’t enjoy life. Something is missing in your life.

Things that we don’t want to solve is holding us back. Fear of unknown is holding us back. Fear of the outcome not being in your favor is standing in your way. You are carrying a heavy burden. A burden of having to do something every day to hide your problem. You crave normal life. But your unsolved problem does not permit you. You sort of live in a prison. Your freedom is limited. The problem has limited your freedom. You are not yourself. Your joy has been impacted. Your health is suffering. Your overall self-esteem is heavily crushed. Something needs to happen. However, fear is padding you. In addition to living rent-free in your head, it is influencing your decisions. It has convinced you to give up. It has suggested that no one can solve your problem. That people just talk.

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They are not interested in getting to the underlying cause of your problem. You have actually tried to solve your problem before. But just as fear suggested, people just talk. And now that you have confirmed what fear said. You want to make peace. You want to accept fate. You want to carry the pain. You want to conclude that, that is how it was meant to be. You, living a life that you don’t like. You having not to do the things that you like. You being limited. Because fear is fueling you. It wants you lagging behind. It wants you feeling horrible about yourself. It wants you stuck in a vicious circle of indecisiveness. Fear wants you to give up. It wants you defeated. And you are agreeing with its evaluation. That doctors don’t know what they are doing. That professionals don’t know how to diagnose your condition. That they don’t have eyes to detail. They are in a hurry to attend to the next patient.

Your case is not worth their time. You and your fear are both wrong. You have not found the right doctor. A doctor that specializes in your condition. A doctor that is passionate about the case you present. You tried ten years ago. Or Maybe, you have never sought medical attention before. You have never attempted to solve your problem before. And it has been many years of pain and endurance. Problems are not things you want to hold unto. You surely want to solve problems. You want to solve things that you don’t want to solve. You have not been courageous for the last ten years. You have just been bubbling around. Trying to blend in, and trying to live a life. But you are not living the life. The life that you deserve. Fear has prevented you from living a quality life. Your problem has a solution.

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You need to make a decision. You need to get over your fear. Stop fearing the unknown. Nothing bad will happen to you. Get over your fear of hospitals. Get over living with assumptions. Go for facts. Get a diagnosis. Find the right specialists for your condition. Develop courage for the first time in your life. Go find a solution. Solve that thing that you don’t want to solve. Come out of your hiding. The problem will not go away. The problem needs to be solved. The problem needs to be faced with courage. You cannot allow yourself to live with low self-esteem forever. You cannot allow circumstances to determine the quality of life you live. Do something about the things that you don’t want to solve. These things are hurting you. They are taking away from you. The things you don’t want to solve are robbers. They have robbed your joy. Your happiness. Your self-esteem. Your lifestyle. And your freedom.

You don’t like life right now. Your condition has taken over your life. You have stopped doing things that you once loved. You no longer go out. You no longer enjoy your hobbies. You are not laughing as you used to laugh. You are no longer yourself. And you want to sacrifice all the good things that you know you enjoy because you have given up on you? You come on. Develop some courage. A little courage. Courage that will get you out of your hiding. Courage that will push you to find a solution. Go see a specialist. Whatever you are fearing does not even exist. You are holding unto a problem that should have been fixed ten years ago. You don’t want to face the next decade burdened. Get over your fear. It is time to solve things that we don’t want to solve. Get tired of being limited. Get tired of being imprisoned.  

Face your fear. Solve the problem. Do the difficult about your problem. Talk to someone who can solve your problem. There is no bad news. Your condition is not terminal. Something just invaded your body. And doctors who specialize in conditions that affect the skin can treat you. They will get the invader out. The condition is not what you think. It is treatable. Stop hiding. Have some courage. Seek alternative opinion. Perhaps, you worked with wrong people in the past. And they destroyed your experience. But it is time to get up. You cannot accept half when you can have full. Don’t accept being dissatisfied when you can be satisfied. When you can live a joyful, happy life. Go for everything you think you deserve. If, you want to be out there enjoying the sun. Go out there, and enjoy the sun.

Solve the problem that you don’t want to solve. Solve the things that fear has convinced you cannot be solved. Defeat that fear itself. Get it out of your system. Get out of vicious cycle of indecisiveness. Make up your mind now. Solve the things that you don’t want to solve. You cannot allow yourself. To shoulder things that are bothering you. You cannot live like that. There are better and best. You deserve both of them. You deserve living with confidence. You deserve to live in purpose. You deserve good health. You deserve happiness. Get the things that are not needed out of your body. Get diseases out of your body. Go to the hospital. Speak with the right people. Develop some motivation to get better. Life is good out here. You deserve a chance to flourish and become anything you want. Get that fear out.

Circumstances cannot hold you back. Fear cannot hold you back. Stamp your foot. Enough is enough. Go out and solve your problems. Solve that thing you are afraid of solving. Face it. Think about it. Look at how it has scandalized your life. Look at how it makes you feel. You have a lot of unmet desires. Holding unto things you have wanted to do. There are a lot of things you have not done because of the condition. You have been held back for several years. You have been unhappy for a long time. You have been living around this condition for a long time. It has defined you in the wrong way. It has created a false identity for you. It has had enough emotional toll on you. Get over it now. Solve the problem. Face the problem. Challenge your fear. Make the call. Solve the things you don’t want to solve. Break free. Find your wings. Fly.