EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
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Fear in
most occasions come from feelings of being out of control. When your important
things you care about are threatened in any form, you might develop some level of fear. When
you have important bills and the amount of money you have does not cover every bill. That element of inadequacy might make you panic. Because you no longer have
control over your bills. Your finances are failing you. And you are not sure how
you will fix these problems. The thought of having unresolved bills bring fear. And
things change based on these feelings of fear and panic. Your mood changes. And your thoughts decide to play tricks on you. They tell
you that something bad will happen. And you lose your mind. You begin taking measures.
Steps to ensure that something bad does not happen. But you are taking those
measures out of fear. You are acting that way, because you have panicked.
You are
desperate. You are looking for a way to meet all your bills. You are acting
in the best way you know. But you are anxious. Your anxiety is becoming worse
by every measure that does not provide a solution. Your fear is even escalated
now. You have tried a few things that you thought would work. However, by the
look of things. You have a long way to go. You panic even more than the
beginning. You are now anxious. Deeply worried. And frustrated at the same
time. Your needs are taking control away from you. You are no longer in control. The
fear of not paying all your bills is now in control. You have become restless
and your anxiety is at a boiling point. You are about to burst. Your world
is about to fall apart as you watch. And you don’t want that to happen. You are
doing everything you know. But this fear cannot be shaken off. If you find
yourself in this extreme state of fear, here is our best recommendations that can help you overcome your anxiety.
Calm Yourself Down
It is
really hard to calm down when you have a problem. Your mind is all over the
place. Trying to get you answers. Your emotions are also over the place too. You really
need an answer. You need to fix the problem. You are not settled at all. You are
not at peace. But you need to calm down if you must make progress. If you
allow your emotions and fear to drive you, you will create new problems. You will
make mistakes while acting in fear. You will make calls to everyone you know. And you will end up disappointed. However, if you calm yourself down, you will
think better. You will arrive at better options compared to when you are freaked
out. Your calls will not be desperate. Your calls will be thoughtful when you
calm yourself down. You will think of the right people who could likely have
the solution you are looking for.
When you
have a certain type of fear. Don’t allow the fear to control you. Don’t act in
fear. Instead, take charge. Be in control. Become the leader in the situation. Calm
yourself down first. and the best way to calm yourself down is to stop thinking about what you don’t have.
Look at yourself. You have travelled so far. You have been through stuff. But you
managed to navigate them. Think of your last worst situation. It was bad. You did
not know how to solve it. But you are here. You survived. Think of the
approaches you followed to steer your worst situation. You did not have
immediate answers. The situation threatened you. At one point, you thought you
could not handle it. It was too big for you. It was a heavy burden. You could
not carry it. However, when you finished going over your emotions. You figured
out something. And you made it.
Now,
look at your current source of fear. Whatever it is that you are feeling right now. Whether
it is your finances depleting or any other fear. You have travelled so far. The
situation you are experiencing right now will not bring you down. You will not
drown because you have pending bills . You will be okay. Just calm
yourself down. This is an important step. If you calm yourself down. You will
find a way. Some new idea will come up. You will think of something. You will
remember an approach you followed last time. A good approach that rescued you. And
if, it was that good, perhaps it is time. Try it again in your current
situation. You are making good progress. When you calm yourself down, your fear
takes a back seat. It does not drive you. You drive yourself. You see the road.
You make decisions.
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You become
the leader. You start to think. You make well thought out moves. You just don’t
act because you are desperate. You think about it. Brainstorm about it. And
when you finally decide to act. You act from a point of empowerment. You act out
of knowledge. Your approach to your problem is more practical than wishful
thinking. You are deliberate about fixing the problem. The approaches you
choose will likely bring a better outcome. You might not get everything you
want. But you will be somewhere. You will make gradual progress. Progress that
will finally result in a solution. You will be better. Your anxiety will not be
at a boiling point. You will not suffer from headaches. You will be calm and
peaceful. You will make good decisions that will bring you closer to an answer.
Talk to Your Mind
When you
are suffering from fear, you are worried. Your mind is worried. It is scrapping
for solutions. You are making quick decisions. Decisions that might not be
helpful. Your mind is desperate. So it is bringing up all types of things. You are
not calm. You are stressed out. Frustrated that something bad will happen if,
you fail to pay your bills. But thinking that way will not help you. You need
to talk to your mind. Tell it to calm down. Tell it that nothing bad will
happen. That you are in control. That you have done this before. You have been
in worse situations before. And you did not lose anyone during that time. And
you will not lose anything even in this situation. The matter is within your
strength. You will figure out something. You have been a strategic thinker
before. You have led before.
And your
mind does not need to worry now. It does not need to panic. You will find a way
to pay all the bills. The problem is not that bad. This fear will not throw you
out of the game. You will play fulltime. You will play to win. And since you
are interested in winning. You are going to do everything to win. Your fear
will not overwhelm you. You will be the leader. And you will provide direction.
You will be in charge. You will think properly. You will be realistic about the
matter. You will weigh its impacts on you and your life. You will ascertain how
threatening the problem is. You will feel the weight that comes with it. You will be
there to see everything. You will not hide. You will work for real solutions. Solutions
that will change circumstances. Everything will be okay. Your mind need to hear
all these things. It needs to hear that you are in charge.
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You need
to be in charge. Whatever fear you are experiencing. You need to be in charge. Be
the leader in the situation. Don’t get defeated in the mind. Win in the mind
first. Make your mind see the bigger picture. Help it see alternative ways you
can solve your problem. Be in control. Don’t panic. Feel the emotions that
comes with not being sufficient. However, get over those emotions as soon as
possible. Don’t entertain defeat. Don’t entertain defeat in your mind. Tell your
mind to focus on solutions. To come up with strategies that work. To think of
something that matches the problem. Tell your mind not to panic. You just need
to calm down. You just need to focus. You just need to find a quiet place and
think about everything. Map out how you will approach the fear without overwhelming
yourself.
Pray
When you
get to that boiling point. Slow down and pray. You don’t need to be a person of
faith. You don’t need to be a religious person. Prayer is for all of us. When you
run dry. When you exhaust all your options. And you feel that you have come to
a dead end. Pray. Fear has a way of throwing you out of balance. It pushes you
out of your best thoughts. It renders you hollow. Almost making you an empty vessel. Its objective during these extreme conditions is to make you fell helpless. It makes you feel like your game is
over. But you don’t let fear talk to you like that. This is when you take charge. You become the leader in your problem. And sometimes, good leaders pray. Pray for peace. Pray for a solution. Pray for
a miracle. Pray to remain level-headed. You don’t want to panic. Pray for panic
to be taken away. You want to think better. You want to remain focused. Pray for
all these things.
Pray
for good decision-making. Pray for wisdom. Pray that you don’t lose it. Pray
for someone to hold you together. To keep you sane. To keep you organized. To help
you with your problem. To keep you safe and calm throughout the circumstance. Say
anything during your prayers. Anything that you find appropriate during that
time. Just speak out things that you care about. Things you are worried about. Things
you consider difficult. Things that you
feel you cannot handle. Things that you need help with. Talk about all those
things. Let someone know that you need help.
Let someone
know that he can come to your rescue. Be clear about what you want. And put it
in clear words so that you can be understood. Pray for the fear to go away. Tell someone
clearly that you want that fear gone. That you want solutions. And you don’t know
how to find some of those solutions. So, you need help with that. All these practices will not be easy.
But you must decide. You must decide to do something that is not fear. You must
decide to fix the fear that is keeping you worried, and anxious. Don’t hide. Make the right call and work for solutions. Fix your fear.
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