DON'T THROW TANTRUMS AT THE PARTY

 

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

An unhappy child throwing tantrums in the public Credit/Stephen Andrews

Don’t Takeover

The party was organized by different people. People who wanted to have a party. It is their party not yours. You were invited to the party. Don’t get at the party and start throwing tantrums. Don’t throw tantrums at the party. This party is not about your preferences or what you want. The party was organized by people who wanted a party. The people who wanted a party had the vision for the festivity. And they organized it based on their vision. Based on their preferences. And what they wanted their guests to indulge in at the party. The food choices. The settings. And everything else in the party is how the organizers wanted. So, don’t throw tantrums at the party where you are just a guest. No one invited you to offer an opinion. You were invited to enjoy the party. Don’t hijack the party from the owners. Focus on being a good guest.    

Don’t takeover. Stop discrediting the owners of the party. When the whole idea of the party was begin born. You were not there. You have no idea why you have a party in the first place. You don’t know what this celebration means to the organizers. You don’t know why they chose the colors or even food. They had a vision for all these elements in the party. It is what they wanted. It is what they love. That is how they like it. And their likings have nothing to do with you. The organizers of the event were looking for joy. Happiness and fun in the event. They wanted to celebrate with people they love. People who mean something to them. And you were lucky to be among those people. Don’t take over the party. Don’t dampen the spirit of the party. Don’t throw tantrums at other people’s party. Of course you have an opinion. But this is not the place. Focus on the party.

You cannot say you don’t like it. You don’t like how the whole concept was brought to life. Or how the colors and settings appear. You don’t have to like it. If, that is what the owners wanted. That is what you will have. That is how the party will run. All guests will eat the available food. Dance to the available music. And drink the provided drinks. You have no opinion in the matter. How the party looks and happens has nothing to do with you. You don’t have to like it. As long as, people who wanted the party like it. That is what matters. And you were so important to them that, they included you in the list. That is also what matters. If, you got an invitation. Go to the party and have fun. The celebration was meant for enjoyment. Not settling scores. You don’t have to fault their preferences. They like it that way. You focus on having fun. Don’t take over other people’s parties.

Young men at the party. Photo/Monstera Production

Do not hijack conversations. Don’t be the loudest speaker. Allow people who created the party to be the center of attention. They organized this party for a reason. It is their special day. It is their wedding. It is their anniversary. It is their tenth year career celebration. It has nothing to do with you. The only reason you are there, is because they wanted you there. Don’t throw tantrums. Allow event owners to enjoy their party. They wanted fun. They envisioned joy. And good feelings. It is their celebration and they wanted to feel good about it. It is their wedding. They wanted their guests to have fun. And you don’t have an opinion on the colors the bride loves. It is her special day. And she wanted to look that way. Don’t spoil her special day. She loves it that way. And that is final.

People came to celebrate a special day. They are interested in the event. They want to know what the celebration means to the owners. They are interested in listening to the organizers. Don’t take over the party. Stop imposing your opinions. Stop making decisions for the bride. Stop telling the bride you don’t like her choices. It is her event. Don’t hijack it from her. Don’t destroy the meaning of the event. The merrymaking was supposed to mark a milestone. People wanted to mark their milestones with a joyful atmosphere. They wanted a celebration. And they created one. They brought people they love to celebrate with them. Don’t throw tantrums at the party. Stop asserting your preferences. Stop talking about what you don’t like. What you don’t like, does not matter in this party.

A fun loving woman attending the party. Photo/RF._. Studio

People who matter like it. They like everything about it. They like their guests. They love the company they created for themselves. They feel good being in the presence of all these guests. Stop getting in the way of their happiness. Stop making them uncomfortable. Stop talking. Let people enjoy the party. Don’t draw attention away from the bride. It is her important celebration. Respect her opinions. Respect her decisions. Respect her party. Respect other guests in the party. They accepted the invitation to have fun. To celebrate with their friends. To show up for their friends. Stop discrediting all those efforts. People worked hard to be in the party. Don’t take fun out of their mind. Don’t take being proud of their friends out of their efforts. Coming at the party meant something for everyone that attended. Don’t ruin the party with your bad attitude.

Keep your bad attitude to yourself. Keep your negative mood to yourself. Preserve your preferences to yourself. Remember to use them when you have your own party. Remember everything you didn’t like about this party. Then implement them at your party. But today. It is not your party. It is other people’s party. And they made a decision. They chose what they like. They created it for themselves. They chose the right company. And they thought that you were the right company. Honor the decision. Don’t question their choices. The organizers know what they wanted. After all, they worked harder on this party than anyone. They thought about the party. And everything that happens in a party. And created a wonderful experience for their guests. Don’t throw tantrums at the party. Don’t destroy the positive vibes that was envisioned in the celebration. Let the music play. Let people dance. Let people eat. Let people have an experience of their lifetime. Don’t throw tantrums at the party.