4 REASONS WHY YOU CAN'T BE INDECISIVE

 

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An indecisive woman wondering what she should do with her life/Karolina Grawbows 

Lack of Vision

Life itself, does not want someone who is unsure. There is no room for being unsure. There is no time for being indecisive. You cannot be indecisive in an ultra- competitive world. In a world where, few people want to take it all for themselves. You cannot run the risk of being indecisive in a modern society. A society where so many things are happening at the same time. And changes are taking place every day. And you are expected to keep up with all these things. You are expected to be present in all these things. You cannot be indecisive when things are at stake. You cannot be indecisive when your decision is needed for next steps to take place. You cannot allow yourself to be indecisive. Being indecisive is tantamount to lacking a vision. Not knowing what you want. And not being in charge.   

Life indeed, does not appreciate being indecisive. Life loves clarity. Life wants people to know what they want. It wants people to make decisions. To provide solutions. Life wants you to be quick. It wants you to be swift. To think on your feet. To make decisions. A decision that would result in a measure. A measure that will lead to a solution. You need to be clear. You need to have a vision. You need to know what you want. You need to know the direction of your life. You need to know yourself. That is where everything begins. Knowing yourself. And your needs. When you know yourself. It becomes easier to know what to do. When you know your values. It becomes easy to avoid what you don’t need. When you know your needs. It becomes easier to create solutions to your problems. It becomes easier to find help. It becomes easier to know where you are going.

Indecisiveness makes you a bad actor. It makes you unattractive because you don’t know where you are going. You don’t have a vision. You don’t think for yourself. You don’t dream your own dreams. You just fumble through life. Doing everything. Burdening yourself. Carrying heavy loads. Because you want to appear to be making progress. When in reality, you are stuck somewhere. You are stuck. But you are pretending to make progress. Because things around you are moving. So you also want to get moving. Yet, you don’t know where you are going. You don’t know how to make decisions. You are not sure of what you want. That aspect of not being sure is the worst enemy. You will not get what you want from life. If, you don’t know what you want. Life does not appreciate indecisiveness. Because it cannot help you when you are indecisive.

A game loving girl thinking. Photo/Engin Akyurt

It cannot support you. It cannot lead you. Because you don’t know the direction. You don’t have a direction. You don’t have a vision. You don’t know what you want. You don’t know where you are going. You cannot make a decision about what you want. And what you don’t want. You are just there. Doing what everyone is doing. This is what people without a vision do. Bubbling through life. Jumping from one thing to the next. Living lives that are not theirs. Because all they do every day, is implement other people’s visions. They cannot figure out who they are. And since, they don’t know who they are. They cannot figure out their problems. So they don’t have solutions. They just wake up to fit in. Doing the average. Living average. There is nothing pretty about being average. Average makes life boring. And you cannot live like that. You cannot be indecisive. You need your own vision.

Don’t Know Your Needs

Imagine not knowing your needs. Imagine not knowing what you want. Imagine living life without any objectives. You don’t have something you desire. You don’t have a goal you can fight for. You don’t have aspirations because you cannot make decisions. You are indecisive. Everything looks good for you. You are not particular. You love everyone. You care about everyone. You are everywhere any time. There are no rules in your life. Because you don’t know what you want. You are stuck. But you don’t want to admit that you are stuck. So you hide behind activities that don’t define you. Doing projects that are not you. Because you cannot decide. You don’t know your needs. And you don’t know how to meet them. What a difficult life you are living? Not being your own person.

Being in a position where you cannot make decisions. You don’t know whether you want to go forward or backwards. You don’t know, which career to pursue. What food to eat. What clothes to wear. You do what other people do. You do what you see in your environment. You don’t have boundaries. Because you don’t know what you want. Everything looks good. So you want everything. You got to stop living this way. You need to learn how to make decisions. You need to start being sure. Being certain of the things you want. Simplify your own life. Know what you want. Know your needs. Cost your needs. Make your own decisions. Put yourself in charge. Run your own life. Fight your own battles. Have your own thoughts. Make decisions. Choose something. Decide something. Know something. Have a vision. Have a clear direction of your own life. Be in charge. Stop being indecisive.

An indecisive man frustrated. Photo/Andrea Piacquadio 

Afraid of Hurting

You are indecisive because you don’t want to hurt the feelings of other people. You are indecisive because you cannot choose. You cannot narrow down exactly what you want. You cannot get to one or two. You think that if, you choose one, two will feel bad. And you don’t want two to feel bad. So you settle for pleasing. You settle for indecisiveness. A point where you are not going forward or backward. You are stuck in the middle. And you are not moving. You are not making progress. Your relationship is not growing. One and two do not respect you because you can’t decide. You cannot state why you love one or two. You cannot pick what interests you about one. And what you don’t like about one. You want to keep one and two yet, you don’t know one and two. You cannot decide who should do what when things are at stake.

You don’t tell one and two their mistakes because you don’t want to hurt them. You are a coward inside. You are scared of reality. You are scared of seeing things as they are. You are scared of being hated. You are scared of being excluded from mainstream. You cannot even look at your own truth. The truth that tells you. You are not happy. You are living unfulfilled. Something is missing. You don’t want to face these truths. You want to hide in indecisiveness. You want to live in cycles. You don’t want to make real progress. You want to keep a long list of things and people. Things that you don’t need. People that you don’t need. And since, you cannot make a decision. You are fine with long lists. Even when that list does not serve you. You know that some of your friends are not dependable. But you still keep them. You still entertain them.

You want to please them. Because you are afraid of hurting. You don’t know how to say no. You don’t know how to draw the line. You cannot come to a conclusion.  So you keep piling burdens you cannot carry. Sheltering emotions from these burdens. Because you don’t have a vision. Because you don’t know your needs. You don’t know the direction. You don’t know where you are going. You are just following everyone. Doing things that other people are doing on the way. You got to come to your senses. You got to start making decisions. You need to stop being stuck. Stop being indecisive. You are at a critical stage of life. Stop being indecisive. Start making decisions. Start dreaming your own dreams. Start waking up to your own sunshine. Stop following masses. Think for yourself. Get over being afraid of hurting others. If, a shoe does not fit. Get rid of it. 

Wasting Time

Indecisiveness wastes time. You just don’t waste your own time. You waste other people’s time too. You keep people waiting on the line. You inconvenience people. You create unnecessary gridlocks. Gridlocks that keeps everyone stuck. Because you cannot make a simple decision. You cannot decide whether to move or stand. You are in front of the line, but you are not moving. You are not being swift. You are not ready with your payments. You cannot make a decision whether to start unpacking your goods on the checkout machine or not. So you keep people waiting. Waiting on you to decide. You waste time. You slow down processes. And you want other people to move with your pace. Stop being indecisive. You cannot be indecisive. When life demands swiftness. You cannot be slow in modern society.

You will create problems for yourself. People will bring games around you. Your peace will be disturbed. Your joy will be stolen. Your life will be stolen from you. You will lose money. You will get stuck. Stop being indecisive. Stop wasting time. Start making decisions. Start being swift. Stop slowing people down. Stop keeping people waiting. Make decisions. Solve problems that need to be solved. Get to your destination. Have a vision. Know what you want. Stop living afraid. Make decisions. work with the concept of time in mind. Time is limited. You only have enough time in a year. Make decisions.

Make decisions. Get yourself in charge. Take responsibility. Start thinking. Help life understand you. Think your own thoughts. Start making decisions. Know where you are going.  Know your needs. Fight for your dreams. Scale down to specifics. Work with specifics. Stop being general. You cannot be indecisive. You cannot normalize being indecisive. You cannot live like that. You cannot please everyone. Choose what you love. You don’t like everything. Make your decisions. You have a long way to go. The next steps await your decision. Stop being indecisive. Stop living frustrated. Learn to choose. Learn how to make decisions. Arrive somewhere.