SHOULD YOU BE WORRIED?

 

CULTIVATING GROWTH MINDSET

A worried man leaning his forehead on the right hand/ Credit/Frank, K.

Should you be worried, about the things that worry you? Your most important things. Things you would like to see happen. Should you worry about those things? Should you worry about your most important things not going down well? Should you worry about your most important things not taking place? When your most important things go against your expectations, should you worry about it? No. Don’t worry about it. Don’t be worried about it. If, you set up everything right. You did your part right. And you have consulted with the right persons. Then, you don’t need to worry about it. When your most important things don’t happen as you planned, do not worry about it. Instead, focus on what needs to be completed. Focus on the task ahead of you. What haven’t you done, that needs to be done. That is where your energy should go.

You have things that you desire. Things that matter to you. Your most important expenses. Your most important projects. Your important things. You had specific expectations. You wanted by now to have achieved something. To have covered a significant amount of kilometers. You expected a specific type of growth. Specific amount of money. You spend time thinking about these things. You planned about it. You put in the right work. You came up with a work ethic. To ensure that you remain on track. You talked about these things with the right person or persons. The right people you consulted, know about your important concerns. There has been progress. But progress has been slow. You don’t like the direction things are taking. You don’t appreciate slow. You expected a specific type of speed.

A worried woman stranded. Photo/Alexander Dummer

By now, you had envisioned a certain milestone. You wanted to be somewhere. You wanted to have achieved a certain type of growth. And you are worried. That perhaps, what you anticipated will not happen at all. Your circumstances are not looking great. You seem to be moving backwards. You seem to be losing, instead of gaining. This turn of events is worrying you. You are concerned. That maybe, you won’t be able to do, the things that you always do. Things like meeting your everyday needs. Paying for your normal expenses. Putting food on the table. The way things have turned out, you are deeply worried. You wanted to make progress. But it seems like you are stalling. You are not growing. Your income is not growing. The products that you wanted to sell are not moving. You had great expectations.

But it seems like all those expectations, were just expectations. Because what you are seeing, is not what you anticipated. Whatever is not happening is your most important concern. This is exactly what matters to you. Your money matters to you. And when that money begins to diminish, you get worried. You worked for multiplication. You woke up for addition. Everything you have been doing was meant for addition. But several months into the year, you are not seeing the growth direction. So, this is, what is weighing on your mind. You cannot sleep better because of these matters. Your money is diminishing. And you are worried that perhaps, in the near future. You would not be able to cover your expenses. You are in a dark space in your mind. Your important things are not happening. And you are sick about it. When you are in this space of mind, should you still be worried? Even when, you have done what was meant to be done?

A disappointed unhappy man worried. Photo/Andrea Piacquadio

You attempted something. But whatever you attempted, is not panning out the way you wanted. Should you see this turn of event as a problem? No, you should not see it as a problem. Stop worrying about it. If, you are confident that you planned well. And followed up that plan with good strategies. To back up your original plan. Then, you don’t need to worry about it. Focus your energy somewhere else. Look for a new problem that needs your attention. Focus on the new project that you started. Focus on the new things that you are doing. The mere fact that what you anticipated is not what you are seeing, does not mean that whatever you wanted will not happen. The speed might be slow. The progress might be gradual. However, this does not mean that you will plunge. Hell will not break lose on you. You need to start thinking properly. Rid your mind of worries.

Stop thinking too much about it. Find new projects to start. Find new problem to solve. Get things done. Focus on your current activities. You were definitely doing something. You were doing something that was meant to bolster the growth you had anticipated. You had taken measures to counter a negative outcome. The measures that you started to salvage a situation. Continue with those measures. Don’t focus your energy on what you think is collapsing. Don’t invest a lot of time and energy thinking about how your money is shrinking. How you might lose everything. How life is going to be difficult. The things that you worry about are not problems. The things that you are worried about, need time. They need time to find their course. And you also need time to adjust yourself. You need to keep yourself calm.

You need to refocus on other things. Do not allow, what you have already thought about and executed slow you down. Focus on the current projects you are doing. Give the things you are worried about time. When you planned about them, your plan did not anticipate sluggishness. Your plan did not consider that because, you mostly don’t predict the future. You might have seen things and controlled them. But that was not all. There were other dynamics. Dynamics such as, today and tomorrow not looking the same at all. Even though, they occur in the same week. There is nothing you can about it. You cannot control what happens tomorrow. If, you had a good day yesterday. It does not necessarily mean that you will have a good day today. This is how normal life happens. It has dynamics you sometimes, cannot explain.

And you don’t have to be upset that you don’t have answers. You are worried because you don’t have answers. You are afraid because you don’t know what will happen tomorrow. The other part of the things you care about, that you don’t predict is not your problem. You are worrying about the wrong things. The unpredictable part has someone. There is someone who worries about that. And, I think, lines should not get blurred. If, you did your part. Stop worrying about it. Instead, give it time to materialize. The outcome might not be what you want. But that outcome could be telling you something. The outcome could be reflecting on something. Perhaps, harvest time is not due. Maybe, you were forcing harvest time. You were moving too fast. Because you wanted what you wanted.

Life is teaching you something. You better take your time and learn the lesson. Stop putting too much time into worrying. You will not see what life wants you to see. Don’t worry about what does not need to be worried about. Instead, find patience. Instead, get yourself busy. Perhaps, what you thought was enough is not enough. You need to do more. You need to think better than you thought last time. Clear your head from worries. Your important concerns will be fixed. Nothing will happen to you. That is what you need to tell your mind. That nothing wrong will happen. You will meet all your expenses. You will have food on the table. Your money will multiply. Everything that you wanted to happen will happen. But not according to your expectations. Your worries will be fixed when the time is right. When it is harvest season. You will have what you wanted.

Your solutions will come.  Wait for your solutions. Learn how to get to your solutions. Calm yourself down. Stop worrying. Stop wasting time, crying. Get focused. Redirect your energies to the next important thing. You did not have one problem. There are other things that need your time. Give those other things your time. Transfer your attention from worrying to finding new energy to finish other things. Don’t worry about, things that you worry about. Instead, teach your mind to wait. To calm down. To stop getting ahead of itself. To come up with better ideas. Ideas that do not make you worried. Teach your mind to stop seeing negative things. When there is a delay. Your mind should not confuse that with failure. Tell it that sometimes, that is how normal life occurs. You always don’t have your way. And when, how you wanted does not materialize. Your mind should not get depressed. You should not get depressed. Instead, you learn to level-up, and get the next thing done. You should not be worried. You should be focused. You should be energized. You should be disciplined. You should think better. Don’t be worried.