MASKS ARE FALLING

 

                                                                     BUILDING BETTER HABITS

A pretentious person hiding behid the mask / Photo Courtesy / Tnarg

Don’t Look Away

Let us be honest for a moment. Life is something that does not care about titles or ranks. All heads roll. So it does not matter who you are in society. Whether you are the president, celebrity, or just any other ordinary person. Life does not care about these things. However, life cares about being life. Being life means occurring as it should. And exposing issues or weaknesses. About people or things that might not have been seen as problems in the beginning. Life has one goal. To bring up new things that never existed or even existed but were ignored. Problems might have been subtle in the beginning with no visible risks. But the problems were there in the beginning. However, concerned people overlooked them. And acted as if there was nothing at all. Whatever life was exposing about them before was never a risk or a problem at all.  

So they looked away. And moved on with their respective lives as if nothing was wrong. But you got to respect life. It never lies. Because it is with you in moments and places where other people have no access. Therefore, when cracks are exposed in those private spaces. And you still contest those cracks. Life does not care that you don’t want to take notice of your flaws. Life will still happen whether you like it or not. It does not matter how long you want to bury your head in the sand. Facts will remain facts. The only value you get from postponing something is time changing. As time change. Cracks continue to grow. The truth that life showed about you. Begins to become apparent. Things that were hidden because you were busy pretending to be a different person start showing in public. Now it is not just your inner circle that knows your true self when the public goes to sleep.

Life does its work so well. It prepares people and societies so well. It tells people what they are. And what they are not. If you are among a group of people who are obsessed with being perceived as ‘good’ outside. Yet, inside you are totally a different person. This is the right time to quit being foolish. You gain nothing by pretending to be what you are not. The darker side of you will not stop being dark because you pretended to be good in public. A human-being is who he/she is. Your original qualities are your definition. Therefore, if there are some qualities you don’t like about yourself. Don’t suppress them. Thinking that they will die on their own. A problem will always be a problem. Pairing the problem with the right solution is the right approach. Not hiding. Not pretending. And certainly not running away.

Lying Does Not Change the Truth

A beautiful teen acting rude / Photo / Karola Kaboompics.com 

Engaging in these short-term strategies might help you survive. Pretending to be what you are not. Might help you in the short-term. You can fool a few people and get away with it. You might win a few contracts. Or even get whatever you were looking for altogether. However, the truth will still remain. There is something about you that is not good. Life revealed that bad thing a long time ago. You about it. You know that you are not a good person. That you are not an honest person. Life said you are irresponsible. But you brushed it off. It again reminded you that you also don’t respect other people. That you are rude and mean. But still, never listened. These habits keep coming up now and then. However, their showing up does not mean anything to you. Yet, those close to you. Have pointed out these problems multiple times.

Some people think they are smart. That they can just cheat everywhere. And win all the time. That is not true. There are consequences. If you fail to solve a problem or problems. You will face not so pretty consequences. If you fail to fix your character problems. Life will catch up with you. The people you hurt and act as if nothing happened. Will catch up with you. The rudeness and meanness you exercise towards other people. Will catch up with you. The mask will fall. And everyone will know who you are. If you have been busy hiding rudeness, disrespect, irresponsibility, arrogance, or indiscipline. Let it be known that pretense is not a strategy. People will always be who they are. If you are a good person. Then you are a good person. However, picking up traits for survival is not sustainable. Cracks will only get bigger.

You cannot be all the 26 letters of the Alphabet. You have to be one of them. And stick with the attributes of that letter. Because it is those unique attributes that define that letter. And make it different from others. If you are letter A. Don’t practice the characteristics of letter B. And still want to remain letter A. You are lying to yourself. Don’t built one image in the public. And practice a different image in private. There is no need for double standards. The only person who will suffer significantly from such behavior is yourself. Because when you lose face. It will be your reputation at stake. Not the people you pretended to or acted rudely towards. Face your insecurities. Stop covering them. They will not vanish because you rejected them. Insecurities don’t go away because you covered them so well.

Face Your Insecurities

A handsome young man masking his true identity / photo Courtesy /Kaushal Monadiya 

Don’t jump out of your skin. Face the problems that scare you. Work on your character. If enough people have complained about your behavior. Pause and look at the complaints. Commit to a certain working improvement. Find someone you can trust if you cannot face your issues alone. Running away. Or refusing to acknowledge that you have a problem is not the solution. No one is perfect. And the sooner each one of us faced our ugly aspects, the better. Walking around with two faces will only get you thus far. Pretense is a heavy burden. Building one image in the public and the other in the house is too much work. Stop wasting your energies in the wrong things. Define yourself. And stick with the correct image. Even when you don’t like that image. That is an easier burden. With this burden. You only need to list the things that you don’t like.

The things that you list can be matched with the right solutions. Every problem that you will identify. Will have a different solution. Commit to these solutions. The journey will not be easy. But at least, you will be on the right track. There will be no masks. The person that will be struggling to meet certain things will be you. the honest you. One that knows is irresponsible. And is trying to act responsibly. It takes time to finally kick irresponsible attributes out of your life. However, being a responsible person. Begins with admitting that you are irresponsible. That admission alone, is your healing.

When you admit that you are lazy. You open yourself up to learning new things. That is how normal human beings solve problems. They begin by seeing the problem first. When someone or life points that there is something wrong. Wise people look at the wrong thing. And comes to terms with it. I hope that you will take off that mask. And face your insecurities. That will be a step in the right direction. You will finally solve the problem. And be free forever. That is what life is all about. Exposing and healing. So, stop pretending. Instead, find yourself and your manners. And start enjoying life. Being honest is healthy living.