A SEAT AT THE ADULT TABLE

 

BUILDING BETTER HABITS

Executive tables for adult decision-making / Photo Courtesy / Plato Terentev 

No Favorable Eyes

Standards are high at the adult table. And everyone who has a seat at that table earned it. People did not come to this table half-baked. They put in the work. They saw what was at stake. And the demands that followed. And still chose to commit. Things that happen on the adult table are not easy. Subjects are complicated. And some problems do not have straight forward answers. So people have to think. And after they have thought. They have to think again. People who earned a seat at the adult table love creating solutions. They follow the long way. And see things for what they are. There are no favorable eyes on the adult table. Members work with the current image. They see things for what they are. If a matter is difficult. They say it is difficult. And if a problem has no solution. They also say, there is no solution. But they focus on the brighter side. The adult table itself, is the brighter side.    

At the adult table. People don’t settle for mediocrity. People are not afraid. On the adult table. People dream. They don’t just dream any other dreams. They dream the big ones. And match the talk. Adults at the table put in the work. They also endure a lot. They take terrible beatings. But still find joy in the midst of their challenges and struggles. People do not settle on this table. When life present ten ways why something cannot happen. Adults at the table find one tiny thing. One thing that tells them. It can be done. And they hope in that slim chance of a good thing happening out of turbulence. On the adult table. People brainstorm. They experiment. Research, think, solve problems, and in circumstances where some problems lack immediate solutions. They invent. As you can see. There is nothing easy on the adult table.

Remember the table is known as, ‘An Adult Table.’ This means that, it is only adults who are admitted here. Not crying babies. Not people with ultimatums. The adult table is not suitable for cowards. You don’t come to an adult table with petty egos. Not even rehearsed solutions. Don’t come with a problem whose outcome you already know. The adult table is not for politically correct. An adult table does not look for a finished product. An adult table is where new things are created. And for that to happen. Toxicity has to be tossed out. An adult table is not a toxic table. It is a table of fresh minds and perspectives. It is for people who think and are willing to put in the discipline. So if you want a seat at an adult table. Come like an adult. Bring honesty to the table not tantrums. Come with transparency. Speak clearly at the adult table.

No Gerrymandering

Committed adults at the adult table / Photo / Vlada Karpovich

The table is concerned more about the truth than gerrymandering. Don’t bring narrow-mindedness. Don’t bring conditions. As mentioned earlier. The standards are high. And only a small number of people can meet those standards. No one will authorize a transaction. Over something they don’t understand. On the adult table. It is not what you want. It is about the truth and how that truth is communicated. So don’t come to the adult table if you are lazy. Don’t come if you are immature. Don’t come if you don’t know how to think. Don’t come if your emotions are all over. Don’t also come if you have unfinished business. If you got wounds to heal. Heal your wounds first. If there is trauma. Direct your energies on finding the right solution to the trauma. The adult table is not for insecure people. It is not a place for people who have ten thousand excuses.

If you cannot manage your life well. Don’t prioritize the adult table. If you are irresponsible. The adult table is not for you. The adult table is only for those who have clean hands. Those that are qualified. Those who have been sieved. It is for people who have invested several years of understanding themselves. The adult table is not for those who are threatened. The adult table is for the bold. And earning a seat there, is where the real work begins. Just imagine yourself with all those comforts you love enjoying. Who is willing to sacrifice? How many people actually want to be pioneers of something? Who wants to go past the noise to become something? Most people are settling for mediocrity. The world has enough distraction. And most people are not willing to fight those distractions. Majority want to blend in. And are actually okay feeding themselves tasteless dishes.

After all, the internet has everything. There is no need to work hard. You can easily see that in modern learners. They spent several years in school but still come out half-baked. Because they went to class full. And as a result, most of them never learned anything new. Their curiosity was stolen by short-term goals. And they no longer dream. Because they already know where to find their solutions. So there is some kind of lethargies in modern society. Most people are comfortable with what is in front of them. They don’t question or challenge most of things. They just consume. This is actually the sadness of having too much resources in a single seating. Many people forget the blessing. And instead of leveraging on the resources. They begin to abuse them. Today, the number of people addicted to social media is just astonishing.

Do You Have Time?

Who is ready for the adult table? / Photo/ Aheed Baithul Nafia

So who has the time to think about an adult table? When solutions are within reach. Who is actually creating time to name bad habits destroying his or her life? And you cannot ascend to an adult table if you cannot begin with a simple truth. Part of the high standards on the adult table; is to separate chaff from grain. You must collect your own chaff. And place it in one basket. And name it. You must name all things that prevent you from making clear development. Distractions, laziness, lack of self-discipline, dishonesty, malice, and gluttony among other stumbling blocks. To end up with chaff in one hand and grain on the other. Requires courage and honesty. Where is that courage in most of us? Just how many things pass under the surface, which we are aware of? What about the compromises? A lot of people postpone things.

People are waiting for the perfect time to take action. Some are running away from the truth all the time. And instead, growing a list of enemies. You are just not ready. But you want the good things life offers. Many people want to be happy. But their mind is in the wrong things. You cannot be happy if you wake up irritated each morning. You must commit first. Go back to the thing or things that make you irritated so early in the day. It is only after you come to terms with the stressors.  That you will make progress towards happiness. And finding more happiness in your life requires honesty. Have you invested in being an honest person? Can you number your weaknesses? Have you committed to any program or practice to solve those weaknesses? Now you see. That is why the standards are high at the adult table. 

You won’t earn a seat being complicated. You must first simplify your life. Catch the little foxes in your own life. Your vineyard must be thriving before you seek a seat. Do the necessary work first. Find honesty. Learn the importance of transparency. Come empty to the adult table. Come mature. Come fully baked. Come ready to do the heavy lifting. An adult table is not for the faint-hearted. You must be courageous and open. That table makes a lot of decisions. That table requires a lot of wisdom. An adult table is about decision-making. And that alone, is a lot of work. Babies are indecisive. Teenagers are terrible. And some people in adult bodies are just dumb (those who lack good judgment) for lack of a better word.  And it looks like. You will really work hard for that seat.