THERE'S MORE HAPPINESS INSIDE

 

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

A diligent serious man thinking about more happiness / Photo Courtesy / Jaykumar Bherwani

It’s Clean Up Day

If you are looking for more happiness. Look deeper inside. Happiness resides in a good place. A quiet place. A clean home. Therefore, if you are running short on happiness. Don’t stress yourself searching it outside. Instead, ask yourself if you have the three ingredients. Are you at peace? (good place), do you have clarity? (quiet place), what is the overall state of your inner environment? (clean place). That is where the real work needs to take place. Get toxicity out of your mind. Get rid of unnecessary emotions. You don’t have to react with everything. People will always have an opinion about something. You don’t have to fight with people every time they express their mind. Don’t strive to be right all the time. Be reasonable. Not everyone who points out something you don’t like. About yourself is out to attack you.

It is what it is. Someone saw something. And said something. Don’t attack us because the truth was spoken. Lower your temperature. Listen to the truth. No one hates you. Whoever, pointed out something. Just wants you to do better next time. Don’t waste people’s time. Don’t make your work more important than other people’s work. It is about respect. And you don’t demand it first. You earn it. And this is mostly seen in the context of other people. How you treat other people matters, especially those you deem inferior to you. Or those you think are underserving. So work on your petty ego. No one disrespected you. Someone said the truth. And you did not like it. Reacting out of emotions will not help you. Fighting with everyone will also not help you. Twisting things out of context will also not help you.

You need to adult up a little bit. You need to be objective. This way, you will not be easily hurt by insignificant things. Your peace would be protected. You will be more calm. Focused on important things. Finding happiness in life is not about perfection. Happiness is found in messy. Not the kind of messy that involves scandals. But the kind of messy where you accept that you are not complete. Messy where you agree that you don’t have solutions to all your problems.

Consume New Things

A handsome man seeking more happiness / Photo / Alan Garzon 

And sometimes, the best thing to do is ask for help. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You don’t have to be in control all the time. Some things are just hard. And you don’t have to pretend. Recognize what you can do and what you cannot do. Complex things require a certain level of expertise. And if you learn that you do not have the expertise. Don’t be an obstacle.

Get out of the way. The more you sustain this kind of attitude. The more you open up yourself. Proceeding with this line of thought. Will help you get toxicity out of your mind and heart. Ending up with a quiet place begins with listening. Start listening. Look at the scars. Look at the trauma. Recognize it. And find help. Don’t use your past hurt. To hurt other people in the present. Walk out of that attitude. See a problem as a problem. And nothing else. Don’t twist what you don’t like. You will not be solving a problem. Get out of your own echo chamber. Things do not need to occur as you wish. This is life. And it has unlikely surprises. Don’t be combative when that happens. Don’t work so hard. To portray a certain image when you are hurting. Be honest. And open up. Connect the things you don’t like about yourself with the right solutions.

Happiness comes from within. From a point of satisfaction. A place of contentment.  If you learn that you don’t find satisfaction in your own life. Start questioning that which you don’t like. At whose expense are you keeping hatred? At what expense are you nurturing unproductive criticism? Accept yourself as you are. And start fixing those areas you don’t like. Spending a whole day. Hating on yourself will not lead to happiness. In fact, you will be more broken than before. Instead, locate all insecurities. And start dealing with them one by one. Stop living being threatened by everything. No one is out to harm you. Build confidence. Strengthen your self-esteem. Find the quality of life you deserve and start living it. Find joy in your own life. Leave other people alone. What they are doing. And what they are not doing.  is none of your business.

 It Is Inside

A thoughtful man looking more inside / Photo Coutesy / Alexandru Molnar

Don’t overburden yourself. Leave your neighborhood alone. Someone else is in charge of that community. Don’t make it your business to know everything. Only take in what matters. And if there was something pertinent. The community elders would have announced it. So stop digging. Instead, focus on your own inner environment. Clean everything. Remove all the junk. Take your time.

Happiness might not occur on the first day. However, if you keep looking long enough. You will see the unwanted. You will see the toxicity. The vicious patterns. And maybe, you own unwillingness to learn new things. Once you deal with every area in your life. you will end up a little lighter than before. The lighter you get, the more happiness you will find. Just ensure you are free. Don’t live under bondages.   

Life is simple. It is about respect. Don’t be the average of your ten terrible friends. Be yourself. Think your own thoughts. Make sense of life by yourself. And when you see anything weird. Don’t flirt with it. That is an obstacle to your own happiness. Remove all the dirt. Sweep around and across your life. I just gave you the broom. Use it properly. Search every corner. Don’t leave anything unturned inside. Ensure your mind thinks about good things only. Do not hurt other people intentionally. Respect everyone. If you expect other people to treat you well. Be the first one to do good. Get all those logs out of your eyes. See a good human being. Don’t be threatened by the success of other people. Don’t compete with everything. Find your pace. And run at your tempo. Sometimes, your own pace is the missing happiness.