LOOK AT THE PERSON YOU'RE RAISING

 

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Objective and critical thinking people looking / Photo Courtesy / Cottonbro 

Weak Foundation

The world has really changed. The change can be seen in the overall quality of a modern person. A modern person stands on a weak foundation. The person is not rooted in deep foundational teachings and hard truths. A modern person has been exposed to certain stimuli, which have weakened the mind. Things like the eroded moral fabric and all the noise on the internet. Have weakened both the physical and mental foundations of a modern person. The person most modern families are raising is not holistic. Some areas of a modern person have not been fed. There is hunger in the character of a modern person. A modern person is emotionally involved. The person gets hurt a lot. A modern person takes or sees offense in everything. The person reacts with almost everything. People are not thinking twice before they speak.

A modern person is noisy. He or she lives distracted. A modern person is mostly invested in dopamine. The person is mostly interested in the feel good things. This man or woman is chasing excitement. A modern person avoids responsibility. People literally run away from complex issues around their own lives that need responsibility. A modern person does not easily admit that he or she is wrong. Majority take offense with the truth. A modern person finds the truth as hurtful. So he/she does not want to hear it often. A person would rather burry his head in nonsensical gossip on the internet than face reality. That is how much the world has changed. People have become more flippant. They don’t pay attention to things that matter. Instead, they want to be politically correct.

They want to have an opinion in everything. And while distracted. They never grow up. That is the person most families are raising. A person who never grows up. But goes through different stages of life. And eventually ends up in an adult body. Yet, he/she is not really ready for adulthood. The man or woman is emotional. As a result, the decisions are also emotional. That is why most families are sitting with a ticking bomb. A child can explode any time. Most people are not objective. Majority are not critical thinkers. Many are not analytical. A modern person does not read the room. He walks in a room thinking and walks on all blind spots. He is the kind of person who walks in a silent room. And becomes the first person to speak. The overall quality of a modern person is poor. It is poor because there is hunger.

Feed A Modern Person

A busy executive wondering what to do / Photo / Mizuno Kozuki

The core areas of a modern person have not been fed effectively. The mental. The spiritual. The social. These key areas have not been developed as they should. Most people lack in these critical areas. This in fact, is where the problem of modern parenthood begins. Most parents are not looking at the person they are raising. And how they are raising him or her. Vanity has stolen from modern parents. It has stolen their attention and redirected it to things that do not matter. Parents are not invested in the lives of their children 100 percent. Most parents are not even sure whether their children are really learning. They also don’t invest in the discipline of the child. Just think of the number of disrespectful children and teens you have met. That number is growing. Vulgar language among children is also growing.      

And the most devastating part is that. Some children use that language in the presence of their parents. And they are not corrected. Look at the world we are living in. A world that is slow to correction. And even when that correction occurs. It is never taken with a good attitude. The person being corrected takes offense. This toxic culture has created a weak person. One that does not want correction or respects the truth. A person that sees criticism as an attack. A boss that sees employees as disrespectful. The boss too does not like the truth. The world is gradually ending up with irritated people who see threats in almost anything. As a result, we have ended up with a defensive person. One that feels the need to stand up for him/herself all the time. a modern person fights every day.

When all that this person needed from the beginning is to just grow up. A modern person is threatened by his own shadow. But this bad culture must stop. Let people start doing the job. And the most important job anyone needs to do. Is to grow up first. Don’t become a parent until you are ready. People need to invest time in filling up the gaps. There are a lot of gaps that exist in a modern man. School these days is not churning out a fully baked modest person. School is also leaving gaps. And people need to muster courage and admit that they have gaps. Instead, of reacting with everything and everyone. People need to shift attention from the wrong things. And place some of that attention on themselves. People need to identify and accept their own limitations. A parent who is struggling to raise a child should admit that struggle.

Something Is Missing

A loving parent looking at the person she is raising / Photo Courtesy / Barbara Olsen

A society as a whole. Should accept that something is missing. The world did not just change. Something changed about people too. A kind of laziness cropped in. And mainstream distributed it as modernism. In some occasions, it was marketed as productivity. People stopped saying the word ‘I don’t know.’ Because they focused on the shame. Allowed their petty ego to convince them. That they cannot stand being seen as the one lacking certain information. When almost everyone around them knows something. But at this ticking bomb. All those people who don’t know something. Must come forward. And admit that they are lacking in certain areas. A correction needs to take place. And unless the concerned people come forward. The quality of the person we are raising will not improve. Modern society needs honest struggling parents. To admit that parenthood is overwhelming.

They need to admit that they have not held their steering well. They missed something on the way. And it is high time they came back for that missing information. Parents need to identify their own gaps in their parenting skills. It is only after making that confession. That progress will take place. The person you are raising is standing on a sinking foundation. Look at that falling foundation. What wrong material did you use? How many wrong people, did you include in the project who were not qualified for those projects?

Think of the wrong decisions you made. Before looking at the person you are raising. You will agree that. You have a long way to go as a parent. Correct those mistakes. The world did not just change on its own. You changed too. The moment you began accepting mediocrity at the expense of high standards. You compromised the quality of the person you are raising. But we must make progress. Begin that progress with honesty. End some blame games. And take responsibility. Even if it means for the first time. Change the foundation the person you are raising is standing on. Lay a foundation of honesty and accountability. Correction is innovation.