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HOW TO STAND FIRM IN THE STORM

CULTIVATING GROWTH MINDSET

FIRM IN THE STORM
A heavy storm striking through a city/ Credit/Andre Furtado

The storm will come. It does not matter how strong and secure you feel right now. The tempest will come. It will come to test you. To see how strong, you think you are. The storm will come to play with your foundation. It will come to shake you. It will come to assess your stability. It will come to mock your truth. That is when you will understand, what you think you know and what you don’t know. The storm will make you doubt what you know. But you need to know how to stand firm. Stand the test of time. Stand firm in the presence of those who think you are fraud. That you fake your stability. Those who think you cannot make it. In fact, you might not make it. A storm is nothing to play with. A storm destroys. And when it will appear anywhere near your life, it will have a mission. A mission to destroy whatever good that was going on in your life.   

The storm wants you to lose. It wants your boat to sink. It wants you to sink. But that is not what is going to happen. You will stand firm in the storm. You will try to win in the storm. You will remain in the game. You will continue playing in the storm. You will not quit in the storm. Instead, you will stand firm in the storm. You will make progress. You will endure the storm. And it will be bad. It will be worse. The storm will appear like nothing you have ever seen in your life. However, you will stand firm in the storm and face it. You will not run away. You will remain standing. And try to understand the mission of the storm in your life. These will not be your good times. You will not be laughing. In fact, you could give in a few times. But you need to stand firm in the storm. We have three strategies you can tap into to stand firm in the storm.

Stick with Your Values

This is very important. Your values are very important. A storm is really bad. The dictionary has described it as a violent disturbance, which interferes with the atmosphere. And it does not come alone. A storm comes with rainfall, lightning, thunder, and snow. The storm in our context might not necessarily be the typical storm that you know. The one that you see physically. The storm in our context is the challenges you come across in life. Difficult challenges that you think you cannot face. These are the storms we are talking about. And you need to understand that the storms you will face will not be simple. They will be heavy. Accompanied by all those characteristics the dictionary has mentioned. You need to take notice of the violence in the storm. That is what will knock you off. That is what will shake your foundation.

The violence in the storm will rock your life. It will shake your stability. It will tear you apart. It will ensure you lose balance. That is why you need your values. You need to know what keeps you grounded. You need to know what makes you a fighter. You need to know where your strengths come from. Your values will remind you about a lot of things. The values will teach you how to face a storm. Your values will guide you on how to respond. And how to remain calm. Your values will stand with you. They will teach you how to approach. When the violence in the storm will be so bad. Bad to an extent that you are about to fall. Your values will pull you back. They will hold you steady. And keep you in the game. Your values will ensure you don’t drown. Instead, they will find strength for you. They will hold you together.

When you stick with your values. It is like telling the storm to stop bullying you. You remind the storm that you are not a softie. That whatever good that is going on belongs to you. Everything that you have acquired over time is yours. And you are not going to lose it. You are going to protect it. You are going to fight. You are going to stand firm. The storm will not scare you with the rainfall, thunder, snow, or lightning. You will stick with your values. And fight to the end. You will look in the eyes of the storm. And tell it it has two options. Calm down or go away completely. You will not play games with the violent. The violence in the storm will not minus from you. You will not allow it. Because you know what makes you. You know what is in your fiber. You don’t lose that easy. You don’t get scared that easily. You raise to the occasion. You take responsibility. You solve problems. You don’t hide when the storm becomes tough.

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A resilient man standing strong. Photo/Topmah

You will not wish that it did not come. Instead, you will face it. You will be present. You will understand it. You will dig for the root cause. You will understand its basis. You will get to the bottom of everything. You will not accept defeat. The storm will not overpower you. You will not allow it to change your atmosphere. You will not accept the new conditions that the storm wants to introduce. You will live your life according to how you know it and want it. The storm will not bully you into submission. It will not attack you. It will not step on you. You will stand firm. You will stand strong. You will fight for your survival. You will not run away. You will only stand firm in the storm if you have values. If you know your strengths. If you know what those values mean to you. You will stick with what you know. You will stick with your values. And you will start having values if you don’t have some already.

The Truth

How to stand firm in the storm is to know the truth. The truth about your life. The truth about how you arrived where you are. The truth about how you live your life. What keeps you cemented? What holds you together? What kind of a person are you? What is your overall perspective about life? Which lanes do you use to see and interpret things? You need the truth. The truth about all these things. You need the truth about you. How well do you know yourself? How do you face challenges? What mindset do you operate with? How do you see the storm? As a heavy load you cannot endure? Or as a nice challenge you can face? A wonderful opportunity to learn from? The truth will get you standing firm in the storm. The truth will sustain you. The truth will empower you. You will find new strength to face the storm. You will win with the truth.   

Life has different phases. And it is wise to live prepared. You don’t want a storm to catch you by surprise. You will become the most disoriented person of the year. If the storm catches you by surprise. You might not survive. your boat will surely sink. However, you don’t want that for yourself. So find the truth. Learn something about you. Understand you. Interrogate you. Find your resilience. Learn where your resilience comes from. Learn about your survival tips. How do you find your way out of a desert? How do you make it alive in the middle of hungry cheetahs? How do you beat crocodiles in the sea? How do you make it alive in a fiery storm with all that turbulence? Find the truth. Find your truth. Speak the truth during the storm. Tell the storm that you know its mission. Remind the storm that you also know your values. That you know what keeps you standing. And you are not ready to lose. Your possessions are yours to keep.

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A focused woman standing firm. Photo/Dinielle De Veyra 
The positive talk. The truth that you will develop during the storm, is what will keep you standing firm. It is what will prevent you from falling. The person that you will become during the storm, is what will sustain you. You need to know a stronger you. You need to know a true you. You need to have mechanisms that keep you living in a dry land. You need to have material in your tool box that stand the test of time. You need knowledge. You need wisdom. A battle is not won on an empty head. You don’t win a battle with mere words. You get to the battle ground with the right resources. You start by understanding your enemy. Once you study your enemy. You learn how to pick the right tools. And dress for the occasion. Enter the battle field ready. Face your storms ready. You stand firm in the storm when you are ready. You face the storm in your life when you are ready. Know your truth. And bring your truth to the battle field.

Pushback

Pushback. What you have worked for is rightfully yours. The storm cannot take it away. Pushback the storm. Never mind the violence in the storm. Just pushback. A storm cannot bully you to submission. You cannot submit to a bully. You cannot submit to the storm. You cannot lose to the storm. You cannot lose to the pressure that the storm comes with. You cannot lose to the rainfall. Don’t accept to be washed away. Pushback against the storm. It does not matter how strong it appears. You are going to summon your strength. You are going to remain strong. You are going to pushback. You will push back with the right knowledge. You will push back with understanding. The storm will not take away from you. You will put up a spirited fight. You will not give in when thunder begins. And you will not fear lightning either.   

You will stand strong. You will stand firm in the storm. You will push back by telling the storm it attacked the wrong person. You are the wrong person for the storm. The storm did not strategize properly before coming after you. You are not giving in. You are not giving up. You are not going to sink. You are not going to lose anything. You will remain in the game. You will play to win. You will toughen as the storm gets strong. You will push back. The storm will not change your atmosphere. You will not accept the new conditions the storm wants to set for you.

You will not become a failure. You will not become the defeated. You will not become a loser. The storm will not win over you. You will push back using the right resources. You will tap in your truth. You will tap in your values. You will tap in your positive mind. You will not lose. You will stand firm in the storm. You will fight in the storm. You will win by pushing back at challenges that want to steal you. You will be the adult in the storm. You will take responsibility. You will get to the underlying causes of the storm. You will solve your problems. You will understand the mission of the storm. And you will keep fighting until you win. Don't allow a thief to steal anything from you. The storm is a thief. Face it. Rebuke it. I know it will be one of your worst days. But you will keep your eyes focused. You will fight to the end. You will not relent.

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