One
of the worst things of being irresponsible is carelessness. A person does not
care about the consequences of his or her actions. This is sad, especially if,
you have any form of responsibility. You are a parent perhaps. Any employer
maybe, or just a normal human being with responsibility. We all have
responsibility to some extent. If, not to other people, then to ourselves. And
the worst that comes out of you is being careless. You cannot be irresponsible
because it is really bad. Imagine being the person that cannot get things done.
Someone who cannot be relied upon. A person that acts as though, he or she does
not have a conscious. That
is sad. But being irresponsible does not just happen. It has its perfect
conditions. The perfect conditions of irresponsibility are all bad traits.
Being insensitive, lack of self-discipline, immaturity, cruelty, and worst of
them all, carelessness. Why do you even end up with such characteristics? These
are behaviors that destroy anything good in other people. They make other
people feel less cared for, or less valued. If, you are a parent, and you are
irresponsible, your children will feel abandoned even when you are right there.
Think about that for a moment. Let’s
think for a moment, about any irresponsible person you know. One of the sharp
characteristics that quickly shows up from an irresponsible person is being
insensitive. Someone is dead to things that matter to him or her in real life.
Someone just does not care that he or she is supposed to behave in a certain
way around the people that matter most. I will go first, and describe an
experience I have personally witnessed.
There
is a man, and a woman in a relationship. It is not just a causal relationship,
they live under one roof as husband, and wife. They have responsibility to each
other. Then there is just a pattern in this particular relationship, which is
very toxic for lack of a better word. The man in the relationship does not care
about the needs or feelings of the woman in the relationship. He verbally
abuses her. He calls her names. And he has to be reminded about everything that
a normal married man should do. And even, when those remainders are send, he
never appreciates them. He talks back to the person doing remainders with some
element of sarcasm. A responsible man knows that the burden of
feeding the household is always on him, regardless of the financial position of
the woman in the relationship.
This is the underlying assumption in all
romantic relationships unless otherwise stated. However, the man in this
relationship does not care. He has very little respect for his wife. So he
talks a lot, and he does not care how his talks affect her. She feels
neglected, and emotionally drained. She feels less valued. Uncared for, and
perhaps abandoned. But she wants this relationship to work. She
develops some hope, that maybe, he will change with time. But he does not
change. He is just plain irresponsible, and he is doing very little to correct his
behavior. This type of settings in life, destroys a lot of good things. There
are usually good dreams in these settings. However, the behavior just keeps
ripping the person dreaming apart. The person just can no longer think in
peace, and make progress. You do not want to be this person. You do not want to
be the insensitive type in your relationship. You also don’t want to be the
irresponsible one in your relationship. It is bad behavior. It makes you a
lesser ally in your own house, or relationship. The bitterness, and anger that
insensitive behavior causes to other people, is the vilest form of emotional
abuse. Don’t break up people like that. At least learn the benefits of being
responsible.
Lack of
Self-Discipline
This
lack of restraint, and order makes you behave in ways that undermine other
people. If, a person lacks self-discipline, he or she is all over. One does not
know where to begin, or where to end. Everything is the same. And that is why
they see no wrong in being irresponsible. There are urgent tasks, which need to
be completed. But the lack of urgency from the individual is just derailing all
important things that were supposed to happen simultaneously with the tasks.
So, there is disorientation as a result of irresponsibility. People are just
disoriented somewhere. They cannot get things done, and they do not see a
problem with that. Come on now!
You know, if, it is a teenager who is
demonstrating this type of behavior, at least the world will understand. He or
she is trying to find his way in life. Perhaps along the way, he or she will
get the advice needed to make progress. But for an adult! You are making the
world worried. How did you end up being all over? You cannot call order to your
own behavior. Your language, your manners, the way you related with other
people in your environment. You need restraint. You need discipline. A little
disciple to help you differentiate, when you are making mistakes, and when you
are struggling with something because you don’t know better.
It is quite unfortunate how these types of people end up in scenarios that require
responsibility. They have full knowledge that they struggle with getting things
done, but still, they go ahead to start a family or anything anyway. The toxic
pattern just gets multiplied. If, there is a child in that setting, then we all
have reasons to be nervous. What is the child learning? How will this behavior
impact his or her future? What world will this child live in? Will he or she
cause pain to other people because someone caused pain? So we continue to
wonder. You cannot afford to be irresponsible. You can also, not afford to be
the face of indiscipline.
Your table will not have enough. The people
that you think will come to your rescue will not come to your rescue. Your
solutions do not lie with other people. Fix yourself. Start being aware of the
little bad practices in your life. Find a way to fix them. Learn from good
people around you. Learn what it feels like to meet all the needs of your
family. Learn about being disciplined. Do something to escape a tragedy. You
cannot always be allover speaking everything, and anything. You must learn to
grow up. Show some responsibility. Manage yourself. You are indiscipline. Stop
sending wrong signals to your mind. You need to make progress. You are not a wild
beast. Stop making your conscious seem dead. You are alive. Be alive, and solve
your problems.
Immaturity
Do
you know what it is? Imagine you not being fully grown? Then what are you doing
in an adult skin, or body. You are a baby. And the baby has decided to throw
tantrums. Nothing will happen around here, because the baby cannot calm down.
The baby is speaking on top of his, or her voice. The baby wants to make sure
that everyone around him or her knows who owns the house, the car, or, the
road. Stop this nonsense. At least, that is how irresponsible people act
sometimes, or most of the time. There is no enough common sense. They escalate
things. They gaslight others. They are weapons. And sometimes, the things that
make them go on a rampage are within their control. They just do not know how
to act. Since, they do not know how to act, behaving childishly becomes the
obvious option, or only option. They are limited because they want to be
limited. Don’t be irresponsible. Don’t be immature. Don’t be an adult on the
outside. Don’t walk around in an adult’s skin, or body. Choose to be a complete
package of an adult. Be checked. Have order. Be responsible. Have some level of
introspection on all decisions that carry consequences.
Don’t
embarrass your teenage child. Don’t call your neighbors when the mistake that
he or she has committed needs your attention. Open up the conversations that
you are not having with your teenager. Talk about boys, and girls. Talk about
the changes that are happening to his or her body. Talk about the consequences
of doing some things. Remind your teenager that he or she is still under your
care. Tell him or her to calm down. She is not missing anything by focusing on
her education now. Remind him/her of the priorities in front of him. “Pay
attention to your education. Find some work if, you feel you have too much time.”
But shouting, and letting the whole neighborhood know that a girl is getting
confused with the little attention she is getting from boys is not being an
adult enough. She is getting confused because you perhaps don’t tell her what
the boys are telling her. That she is beautiful. That the dress looks good, or
that, she is just doing fine with what she has now. Tell her, there are bigger
things in life. However, to get to them, one should work for them, or earn
them. There are no free things in real-life. Every action has consequences. So tell
her to be careful.
People
get attracted to each other. You only need to know the right time. Teenagers might
be confused with that because their brain is still developing. They lack the
reasoning brain. That is why they will be angry when you tell them to stop
doing some things. And this not the only area we see problems. Check yourself,
and learn the best way to make progress. Get things done. Be reliable.
Prioritize, and develop some level of urgency in matters that require that
urgency. Most important, be an adult. Be responsible. Have some wisdom. Know
when to act. Calm down.
Cruelty
Irresponsible
people can also be cruel. They do not want to listen to other parties. They
always want to be in control. Being in control tells them that they have some
element of power over others. However, what these people don’t know is, they
have their own unresolved insecurities. They are self-centered. It is either
their needs, or nothing. Their needs must come first. The harshness is a mask
of deeper things. Things they do not want to admit. Maybe, they feel inadequate
when they are around other people. As such, when they are around family, they
begin misbehaving.
By
getting back at all those people who injured their ego by lashing out. There is
no wisdom. There is no common sense. They want to inflict pain. Don’t be
irresponsible. Don’t hurt other people. Solve problems. Stop hiding. Find the
real self, and address it. Deal with your insecurities first. Other people are
not the problem. And there is nothing offensive when you get reminded that you
have not done this, or that.
Cruelty
undermines the presence of other people. It makes you the bully. And the bully
usually has bigger bullies that he or she cannot face. Start by facing the
bigger bullies yourself. Tell the bullies to stop hurting you. Tell them that
they are destroying a good thing in you. Your empathy. Your morals. Your
ethics. And your character. Face the hidden demons, and confront them. Being
irresponsible is just the outer layer. There are other layers, which have led
you to being irresponsible now. Find the layers, and fix them. Stop being
harsh. You really don’t need to instill fear to appear strong. You are still a
coward if, you continue being irresponsible or cruel.
Carelessness
You are definitely
careless if you are irresponsible. You are careless because you have forgotten
a lot of unwritten rules. Not caring about the consequences of your actions is
being careless. Your actions might harm others. Your actions might starve others.
Your actions might kill the dreams of other people. Your actions can hurt other
people. Your actions might also destroy the other only good thing you have,
your own life. Stop being careless. Stop being irresponsible. Irresponsibility
is such a bad trait because it removes ‘care’ in the equation. And when you
don’t care, nothing matters to you. You only matter to yourself. Stop the
carelessness. Start being responsible. Start caring. Start listening to the
complaints. Come out of your echo chamber. Other people matter. Take
responsibility for all your actions. Solve problems. Be reliable. Show up when
needed. Be urgent.
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