FIND YOURSELF

 

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

A devoted man finding himself / Photo Courtesy /Cottonbro studio 

Does it look a lot like Christmas? 

Look Inside

Please find yourself. If you haven’t done it yet. It is that satisfying. There is a warm freedom in knowing who you are. You find pure joy in living a life that is just yours. Doing things that are you or look like you. When you find yourself in this state of mind. You will have no pressure. There will be no need to be someone else. You will treasure being you. Practicing things and behaviors that just define you. It is terrible being other people. That type of life is hard. It has no real meaning. Because most of the things someone does are influences from other people. And the pressure to keep act in a certain way. Just to fit in or feel accepted. Living this type of lifestyle is awful. It is disgusting because you don’t know what you are doing. Being a fraction of other people is living below your potential. It is laziness. And that is not good. It is ugly. There is nothing authentic about you.

Walking and talking like them. Does not make you them. In fact, it is a great disrespectful to yourself. Not knowing who you are is no longer just a teen problem. A lot of people struggle with finding themselves. They walk around hidden. Pretending to know a lot of things. When in the real sense. They haven’t done the job. They haven’t dug deep. They have not curved time or even asked the hard questions. Instead, some people find comfort in complacency. Thinking that if a thousand other people are doing the same thing. It must be right. Don’t be this person. Be the person that gets the job done. One that finds him/herself. Someone that lives a fulfilling life. A joyful meaningful life. Where your satisfaction comes from within not on material things. That is the job ahead. And it does not involve looking to the left or right. Just look inside. And get to understand what is inside.

You need to scale. To narrow yourself down. And look in the mirror. Does the reflection in the mirror look like you? If there is any form of hesitation. A kind of dislike. A delay or confusion. You got miles to travel. Don’t become your environment. Your environment has its own reasons why it acts that way. You need your own reasons to justify everything you do. Things that are only you. Behaviors that have been nurtured not copied. A mindset that has been desired and modeled around the best examples. So that, if today I asked you who you are. You will have a short answer to that question. The answer will not just involve your name. There will be a follow up short description. A description that will cut you according to your size. That description will not have influences or elements of other people.

 Downsize

A Committed handsome man Finding self /Photo /fauxels

It will just say who you are. And it will be a sweet short sentence. A sentence that you will enjoy sharing. You will end up with this short description after investing a lot of time. Deliberate time to define the person inside you. Getting to the right description does not require you to look outside. The biggest job ahead of you is to continuously look inside. To discover the beauty inside. When you create time to explore. You learn a lot of things. Things you like. And things you don’t like. Don’t just focus on the things you like alone. Pay attention to the ugly things too. Discover your weaknesses. Identify how it affects your life. Think about it. Talk about it. And after you have spent enough time with all those ugly things about you. Be upfront. Find the best ways to fix some of them. This is not a day’s job. It is an everyday job.     

And it might take years to come to terms. Don’t be scared when you fail. Don’t hide. Continue sifting. Keep looking inside. And find some courage. Face everything you don’t like. The more time you invest. And the more time you come up with certain measures. The more you lean towards habits that are just you not any other person. This will require hard work. A little bit of growing up. And more about taking responsibility. And owning yourself. Regardless of how you look. Own everything. The good and the scars. That is, you. And you are not made up of one or two things. You are a whole person. And a whole person needs a lot of work. That is why you spent all those years in school. To learn how to speak and write. Because it is not an easy work. To build a whole person. A whole person is stubborn. Full of ego and insecurities.

Don’t Be Afraid

An excited young man looking forward to the future /Photo Courtesy /Justin Shaifer

Sometimes, these insecurities get in the way of growth. And if you are not careful. You might not develop into the required standard. The standard of being reasonable. The standard of applying common sense all the time. Of being conscious and being aware of your surroundings. If you keep hiding from becoming yourself. You will end up with a lot of the world. Nothing with be true about you. Because you have not put in the work. Ending up being rude, loud, undisciplined, and talkative will not help you. Instead, it will make you look a lot like your environment. A lot like a thousand other people. Yet all these thousands of people are very different people. People who have failed to find their uniqueness. And are instead living their surroundings. There is a lot of trash out there. If you fail to find yourself. You might end up with some of that garbage. And that is how being loud or talkative won’t look like a problem to you. Because almost everyone you know acts that way.

Stop being fragments of other people. You got a life to live. And getting to be the person that you want to become requires hard work. No one wakes up into their best versions. People work hard for these versions. So don’t be lazy. Don’t get stuck inside. Fight to become something. Something you are proud of. Something that is a lot like you. Someone who is a lot like you will be happy. This person will find satisfaction in life. The overall quality of life for this individual will be good. He/she will be her own person. Not someone deeply hidden in the minds of other people. When you get the most important job done. You will be fully autonomous. Independent and courageous. You will do things that are a lot like you. Not your environment. Not the thousand other people. But just you. And only you. This will be a good life.

A meaningful life. An organized life. A life with someone in charge. It will be an inspiring life. Other people will find a lesson in you. You will make your contribution. And people will love it. You will love living this way. Living with a lot of clarity. Contentment and restraint. No one will get you here. You will decide to travel these miles. Because this is a very important step in your own life. You must choose to grow up. To become your own person. Someone who gets things done. Get out of undisciplined pursuits. Don’t be there because everyone else is there. Narrow yourself down. Get bad behavior out of your way. Stop being other people. Start finding you. Start living you. Get out of the ears of other people. Develop into you. And practice being you. Live your strengths out loud. Enjoy life. Accept that you got weaknesses. And work on them too. Don’t shrink when you see them. Combat them.