SOME BIGGEST LIES OUT HERE

 

CULTIVATING GROWTH MINDSET

A bright bubbly girl detecting some biggest lies in society /Photo Courtesy /Amina Filkins

Twisted Truths

I am perplexed by how things, which are supposed to be personal choices are twisted into burdens. The desire to become more and be your own person is a basic human right. Everyone deserves that moment. To know who they are and what they are capable of in normal life. It is a great awakening. A milestone that should be celebrated, especially if the person wanting to be more is a grown up child. A child that a parent has watched transition different phases of development and now wants to be more. Someone should be proud because signs of maturity are showing up. The young adult wants to discover his or her purpose. The grow up child wants to understand life and learn responsibility. Away from what has been sold to him or her as a child. This individual is looking to build his/her own memories based on an authentic assessment of life.

And no one should deny the other an opportunity to mature. People need to see life in its raw form and use those experiences to decide what they want. No one should impose choices on other people. People should be given freedom to become what they want to become. If a person has reached a majority age, which legally is defined as 21 years’ of age. This individual is entitled to some privileges. Privileges such as, making choices of what he or she would like to do or become. And people at this age know how to differentiate between lies and truth. There are some children out here who have been exposed to single-sided way of life. Their parents have made choices for them. And they have clearly indicated that around here, people act this way. Any other way is not our way. And anyone who refuses our way will not be tolerated.

And these parents expect obedience. That children who are no longer minors will accept such half-truths and obey. What these parents are doing at a low-key level is controlling. And it is not just control alone. They are also brainwashing by painting normal life as evil. That there is some evil out there that will taint their sacred way of life. And they follow-up this brainwashing with subtle threats. And they expect right thinking members of society to accept these fat lies. Yet, the persons they have been feeding these lies since childhood are now adults. Persons that can think for themselves and know that they are missing something. And they want more. They have openly expressed this desire of wanting to go out there and explore life on their own. However, parents who have built their lives around fear and control.  Have now turned to threats to dissuade their children from dreaming big or wanting an alternative way of life.

The choice to become pagan or religious is an individual decision. Nobody should influence the other. People need their own reasons and experiences to identify with one thing or the other. However, if I grow up in this home and people in this home act in a certain way based on their own experiences. The experiences that led the people in this home to act that way are not my experiences. I should be allowed to develop my own experiences based on how I perceive things in life. That is exactly what children who find themselves in unlikely settings want. They want freedom to be their own persons. They want their own understandings. They want to make their own choices based on their reasons. And no one should create burdens out of genuine intentions. People wanting more is not a crime. People expressing dissatisfaction with somethings is not challenging authority. They are just being sincere. They don’t agree with what has been portrayed as the right way of doing things.

A smart bold woman challenging societal lies /Photo /KATRIN BOLOVTSOVA

And since, they are now young adults. They want a different outcome. Something that is not brainwashed or single-sided. They want the truth. And they are willing to take risks. Therefore, making them easily disposable when they express these thoughts is not only absurd but also questionable. Why will a loving parent have a problem with a child growing up and wanting independence? What is the parent so afraid of about the world? If this parent thinks that he/she has done a good job of instilling the right values in the child; why will he or she have second thoughts, when a child demands freedom? The fact that the child thinks there is more to life than what he or she finds in this environment means some things have been hidden. People are holding back and the child knows about it. And since there is no sincerity in this home. The child wants to go out there and learn the truth by him/herself. Adults in this room, is that bad?     

Circle of Fear

Are societal stereotypes more important than the truth? Is being liked or accepted by everyone more important than living in purpose? Why will some people fight to protect outdated harsh practices? Practices such as, those, which were used to trap women in the 17^th Century. In the 17^th Century, women were told that they belonged in the kitchen. That they were fit only for domesticity. They could not rise beyond homemaking. In other words, women were forbidden from dreaming and becoming their own persons. They could not become professionals because the public space was not fit for them. This was a patriarchal society teaching a woman how to behave and act. This particular society was telling a woman that it was okay to be limited. To live with unfulfilled dreams. To live unsatisfied because that is how life was supposed to be. But women knew this was not the truth. The patriarchal society was trying to control them because it was afraid of something.

Some families are trying to bring back this same old tactic to trap children. They want to reduce capable persons into mere spectators. That they can only operate within set parameters and nothing more. That young men should fit into traditional roles and nothing more. What is fun about spending the whole day in the farm and back at home in the evening? And repeat the same thing every day?  Isn’t that a boring routine? Of course being industrious in the farm and producing all types of food for the family is great. But again, is that what everyone is built to do? These are the exact issues that people who are trapped into some form of cults want to break away from. These people know that there is more to life than performing traditional roles. They want to break away from the circle of fear, lies, and threats.

Yet, some people are creating heavy burdens out of their requests. They are telling these young men and women that if they choose to get out of these traps. They cannot come back. That they will be considered outcasts. The community and their families will no longer see them as family. Look at this nonsense. Who disposes off their families just like that? Does having a contrary view of the majority make you an enemy? Why in the first place do the majority don’t want to be contradicted? If other people, see inconsistencies in the majority’s views and perspectives. Shouldn’t they say something? What is the majority afraid of? That finally some people are beginning to see the lies that they have been advancing for a long time? And they are on the verge of losing something and they are afraid of losing?

An ambitious astronaut debunking biggest lies /Photo Courtesy/ Matheus Viana 

The majority have worked hard to build silos and echo chambers and they are now exposed. That for the first time some people want to walk away from these limitations. People who know what they want are about to be punished for choosing their interests above the community. The majority would rather lose a member than entertain contrary views. Views that tell them there is something wrong. They actually know there is something wrong. However, they would rather not face it. They are afraid of change. They are afraid of the truth. They know that life is not linear, yet they have been selling a single-sided story for a long time. And they have managed to win some adherents. And they don’t want to be challenged. It is either their silos and echo chambers or the highway. This is what is devastating.

Why will people want to protect what is not the truth? Something that is not effective. And the only way it seems to work is because fear has been instilled and some people have bought it with an avalanche of lies. So a super majority of the community is trapped in limitations and failed dreams. And want things to remain this way because this is what people around here know and do. They bury their heads in the sand when hard questions are raised. They misrepresent the truth and they don’t want to be called out. Their misrepresentation might wipe out a whole generation but they don’t care. Who is evil in this case? The one misleading or the one questioning?  Don’t be trapped in lies. Life is best lived in freedom. Don’t be afraid to develop your own wings because some people are afraid of heights.

If they can’t fly, that is their problem. You want to fly. Of course there is the risk of falling. But that is how normal life occurs. The mere fact there is possibility of failure does not mean you don’t dream. Dream and get focused. Threats and fear are not life skills. However, people who want to isolate, mislead, control, and weaponize use them as strategies to prevent other people from making progress. But you are not a fool. If you feel that you are not satisfied. Don’t settle for less. Don’t choose societal stereotypes over your life. Become your own person. Think for yourself. And choose that which best describe you. Even if other people find it gross. Get out. You will realize that you can be many more things at the same time. Don’t live limited. A normal human being is capable of more; just as an ocean has endless water.