HOW TO FOCUS ON YOURSELF

 BUILDING BETTER HABITS

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IN SUMMARY

Ø The biggest dream killer, is worrying about other people’s opinions.

Ø You will never get to your destination if, you keep worrying about what other people think of you.

Tips to focus on yourself;

Ø Forget About What Other People Say

Ø Connect with Your Inner Self

Ø Choose Yourself Over Others

Forget About What Other People Say

It is unhealthy to worry about other people’s opinions. People will always be there. And they will always say things about you, whether they know you or not. No one is 100 percent liked by everyone. It does not matter how good that person is or does.  People will always find fault in a perfect creation.  People will always have comments. There will always be people who will make you their business. They will talk behind the scenes. And it is not your business to control circumstances. You have no business influencing people to act this way or that way. People will act however they want. You cannot stop that. You cannot stop life from happening. You cannot stop life from creating new problems. So make peace with this reality and walk away from it. Walk away from pleasing other people. End your focus on being favorable. There is no favorable. You will always be what you are supposed to be.    

If you are good, you are good. And if you are bad, you are bad. There is no middle ground. Stop forcing one. Instead, invest in yourself. Worry about you. Be bothered whether you are on the right path or not. Be worried whether you have your own vision or not. Worry about these things. Be bothered by things that address just you, not somebody else. Worry about your own progress. Be concerned about your won thinking patterns. Determine whether, your thinking patterns are healthy or not. Shift your attention from other people. Be concerned about yourself. Seek to understand yourself. Understand whether you are doing the right thing or not. Forget about what other people think or say about you. Change your attitudes. You matter as an individual. And you deserve better as a person. That better cannot happen unless you cultivate and seek it.

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You need to understand that the biggest dream killer is worrying about other people’s opinions. That is the worst nightmare of your life. It is an obstacle that you need to overcome. Prioritize what matters to you. Do things that enhance and grow you. Things that bring more happiness and meaning to your life. Worrying about other people’s opinion will prevent you from living your potential. It will prevent you from getting to your destination safely. Learn this early that you cannot satisfy everyone. Moreover, understand that not everyone will like you. People will be who they are. They will be good and bad at the same time. These differing opinions should not worry you. Mind your business. Focus on yourself. Focus on things that make you better. Focus on practices that bring the best in you. Champion yourself to the top. Do it like you are the most important person on earth. Chart your own success path. Leave people and their opinions alone.

Connect with Your Inner Self

There is untapped energy in you. A force that awaits an awakening. Connect with that force. Connect with your inner self.  You have different needs that need to be fulfilled. You need to tap into your inner self to make progress. Your joy and happiness to last, they need to come from inside. You need to find peace and joy in yourself. You can only arrive at this state by understanding yourself. When you understand your potential. You will not waste time listening to things that don’t help you. You will instead, want to focus and pursue your goals. You will want to cheer yourself. You will want to develop your own visions and actualize those visions. You have strength within you. There is a fire inside you. This fire needs to be lit by focusing on what matters. Light that fire by living your full potential. 

  

Connect with your inner self and find peace. Calm storms inside. Ensure that you have a deep connection with your soul, mind, and body. When you learn to be enough. Nothing will bother you. Including those people who deliberately act to upset you. You will not be bothered by these things once you know your worth. The idea of focusing on yourself is living and doing you. Not reacting to circumstances or things. Pay attention to yourself. You need to be still and tap on your own warmth. There is so much that you can do by being your own person. There is so much progress that you can register by seeking your own self-determination. You can travel so far when you are free. You can accomplish so much when you unburden yourself. Focus on yourself. Concentrate your energy on what your inner self needs from you.

Listen to your inner self and implement what needs to be done. Clean up yourself. Organize yourself. Start thinking for yourself. Find satisfaction in your own journey. Find peace in the way you live your life. Do things that define you. Care about yourself. Make it your business to understand you and your needs. Make it a big deal. Make it a whole experience to know who you are and where you are going. Find time to think about things that matter to you. What are your spiritual needs? What does your mind need to remain peaceful? What is lacking in you? What is making you feel less satisfied? Why are you not happy? What is standing on the way? What is preventing you from living the life that you need? What is preventing you from being the person you think you should be? Think about these things. Spend quality time listening to your inner self. Spend time connecting with your inner self. Find yourself. Love yourself. Respect yourself. Tap in the fire inside you.

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Choose Yourself Over Others

I am giving you permission to choose yourself over others. Choosing yourself over others does not mean that you don’t care. It means you care enough to know what is at stake. You cannot take care of other people if, you don’t care about yourself. You cannot solve problems for other people if, you cannot solve your own problems. So choose yourself, and look at things that need your attention. You have needs. You have problems that need to be solved. You have things to fix. You have things to overcome. You have areas to clean up. Choose yourself over others and focus. Focus on you. Focus on understanding you. Focus on finding the best way to solve your problems. Focus on leading yourself. Focus on putting your needs first. Pursue those things that bring you the most joy and happiness. Do things that make you feel whole.

Choose yourself and remember that you have goals. Remember that you have a life. Remember that you have dreams. Remember these dreams and goals. Learn the best way to make them alive. Find solutions that bring you closer to your destination. Live your dreams. Stop being afraid of dreaming. Stop thinking about what other people will say. Go for the things that define you. Find your values. Express your opinions freely. Speak your mind freely. Get over limitations. Get over other people. Place your dreams and what matters in front of you. Find peace if, that is missing right now in your life. Find joy. Find satisfaction. Find fulfilment. Start doing things that are mostly you. Don’t live other people’s lives and dreams. Find your own dreams. Find things that you love. Increase the quality of your life by focusing on yourself. Stop worrying about other people.

Live the life that you think you deserve. Prioritize your needs. Prioritize yourself. Prioritize things that make you the most peaceful person on earth. Prioritize activities that bring you the highest value. Don’t keep a job you no longer like and find satisfaction. Stop hanging out with friends who are no longer adding value to your life. Get away from people and things that are subtracting from you. Get away from mediocrity. Stop living foolish life. Get your house in order. Start fixing things that have been broken for a long time. Work on these things. You are no longer going to hide. You are going to start being available and solve your own problems. You are going to stand up for your life. Start showing up for yourself. Be the biggest believer in your abilities and talents. Promote your values and capabilities. Work for yourself. Focus on yourself. Choose yourself over others. Care about your needs. Care about those areas that need your attention. Be available and listen to yourself. Take care of yourself. Focus on yourself. Forget about what other people say. Connect with your inner self. Choose yourself over others.