BUILD BETTER HABITS
A young man screaming for attention/Credit/ SHVETS
The
modern society is a busy world. People are consumed by their own cares and
responsibilities. They barely have time to look around and notice some things. And
you cannot be the one crying for attention in a busy society. It is even sad
for you to think that people are concerned about you. That they are genuinely
interested in your presence or whatever noise you are making. People are caught
up with a lot of things. Things such as, their own stress and other pressures of
life. And their attention is on other pertinent issues that concern them. Those
important issues are not you. People want to solve their own problems. They want
to pay attention to their own responsibilities. People have their priorities
cut out in front of them. So, stop wasting your time thinking that someone is
interested in you.
Problem Following Simple Instructions
If, you are the type of person that does not listen. Then you have a big problem in
modern society. If you want the same instructions repeated over and over
again, then you got a problem following simple instructions. Your action of
wanting other people to repeat things to you over and over again projects you as rebellious. If, you do not have any hearing problems. Then why would you want
instructions repeated every now and then? The instructor was very clear from the beginning. What are you
are telling other people around you with this type of behavior? That you don’t respect
other people? Your actions of doing things, which have been highlighted as not
appropriate depicts your defiant side. An ugly side that does not listen or
respect. A part of you that does not respect boundaries. A behavior that
demonstrates that you got problems with people.
You
got problems with people who issued the instruction. And you are not
communicating the problem. You are using your defiant side to communicate. To say
that you do not care about what was said. That you do not listen to simple
instructions. And you are looking for a confrontation. You want to create
unnecessary fracas. You want to start fires that no one has interest in. Your
lack of respect for yourself and other people is pushing you not to follow
simple instructions. Instead, you want to go ahead and repeat the action you were warned against. You want to repeat the action to get back to the person
who warned you. The person that said you cannot do that. But you are still
doing that. You are just not doing that but also added a layer of arrogance by moving
the goal post.
You
want a fight. You want to be engaged again over the same issue. You want your
unspoken words to provoke other people. You want to drive people into unnecessary
argument. You not only have listening problem but also an attitude problem. By repeating
what you were told not to do, you are acting like a child. Throwing tantrums by
doing things you are supposed not to do. Your primary objective of engaging in
all these activities is to get attention. You want to draw attention to
yourself. You want to show other people that you can also talk. You can step on
the toes of other people. You can trash other people. Yet all that was needed was
for you to follow simple instructions. To stop doing what you were advised
against. To start engaging in more common sense. To start thinking. To start
being conscious. To be alive. To recognize that you live with other people.
And
that people are different. Your hobbies are not other people’s hobbies. And you
cannot just overstep because you enjoy your hobbies. The instruction was meant
to teach you to mind other people. And to act in ways that show common sense in
every day living. It was a friendly reminder. Not an invitation for a fight. The
instructions were not meant for you to develop an attitude. The instructions
were a polite reminder. A reminder that you are making noise for other people. A
reminder that you are making other people uncomfortable by standing on the
edges of their houses. You were bringing inconvenience in the lives of others. The
instructions were meant to help you think better. To consider other people and
their varied needs. The instructions were meant to tell you to go do your
hobbies inside your house. And to stop being an obstacle. So, stop fighting. And start following simple instructions.
Challenging Authority
You
are crying for attention if, you challenge authority a lot. There is absolutely
nothing wrong with challenging authority. However, the habit of questioning
everything without taking time to reflect on what an authority is saying, is
just bad behavior. You like talking. You like fighting. But the things that you
are fighting for do not need a fight. The authority just pointed out an obvious
thing. Something that you were supposed to be aware of yet, you were unconscious.
The authority wanted you to stop overstepping and trespassing. You need to stay
in line. That the things you are doing are not good. You are acting like a
child. Start thinking like an adult. Start behaving like someone who has common
sense. Stop making other people uncomfortable. The authority wants you to know
that you are making a fool out of yourself.
You
are making yourself unpopular. You are acting unconsciously. The authority
wants you to start using common sense. The authority wants you to stop acting
like a fool. However, you are interpreting an authority’s message wrongly. You want to challenge something, which is within your
control. You want to escalate a situation that does not need an escalation. Why
do you want to draw all that attention? Because someone called you out? And you
did not like being told the truth? What is wrong with you? Stop crying for
attention. Instead, start thinking. Start using common sense. Stop trespassing.
Stick to your environment. Ask permission before using something that is not
yours. Stop challenging authority. Instead, look within and solve your personal
and character problems.
Tension
Your
problem is not just following simple instructions. Your problem too, is
creating unnecessary tension. No one is fighting you. No one is interested in
you. And your little head is tricking you into provoking other people. The tension
that you are creating by constantly doing things that you are not supposed to
do is unnecessary. Stop your uncalled for behavior. Stop fighting people. Stop behaving
as if you know people. Yet you don’t know anything about other people. You are
new to the environment. And you are using other people’s narratives about other
people that they don’t know to develop an attitude and create tension. You have
your own issues. You need to examine yourself. You need to ask yourself why you
are so immature. Why will you have a problem with people you don’t know?
What
is going on with you? If you are petty, not everyone is petty. People want to
focus. People have moved on to other important things. Why are you still stuck
on the same issue? An issue that was meant for your own good. Was it such a bad
idea that someone noticed your bad behavior and point it out to you? Why are you
emotionally attached? Why are you fighting authority? Why are you creating
tension? When the next steps just needed you to correct yourself? Be a little considerate.
And ensure that you apply common sense all the time. Why are you crying for attention
by creating tension? No one is interested in engaging with you. The instructions
were meant to help you see what you were not seeing. To put you back in line. To
help you learn that people are different. Stop fighting and correct what needs
to be corrected.
Getting in the Way of Other People
No
one needs you where they are, but you are strategically getting yourself in the
way of other people. People who have nothing to do with you. Your petty ego
cannot rest. Your petty ego wants you to fight. To escalate things out of
control. To upset other people. To irritate other people. You are doing so by
repeating things that you were warned against. Things that you were supposed to
be aware of by yourself. And now you have taken the matter to a whole new level
by trespassing. You want to use trespassing to provoke the person that called
you out. You want an argument. You want to draw attention by pulling people
into things that they have already solved. You are not correcting the mistake
that you were called out for. And now, you want to create a new problem. A problem
of getting in the way of other people.
If,
a problem has already been called out, but you are still acting out. You have a
problem brother. You need to mature up. Stop being petty. Stop letting your petty
ego cheat you that you can fight back. That you can challenge. That you can
disrespect. That you can trespass. That you will draw other people into your
mess. Get a life! Learn to listen. Learn to correct. Learn to avoid being
emotionally attached. Accept correction. No one wants to fight you. People want
better for you. Stop creating inconveniences. Someone noticed your
inconveniences and now you are not happy. You now think that, that someone
wants a fight with you. Stop acting out. There is something wrong with you. You
don’t know how to live within boundaries. You love overstepping, and you think
everyone is like you. You think trespassing is good. And that there is nothing
wrong with getting in the way of other people. Start being reasonable. You need
to start using your common sense. Stop crying for attention.
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