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5 WAYS TO OVERCOME INSECURITIES

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Overcome Insecurities

An insecure and isolated teenager hiding in a nearby thicket/Credit/Darwis Alwan

Insecurities carry potential and possibilities to keep you behind. They can stand in the way of you making meaningful progress because they come with layers. Layers that you don’t like. Things that you want to hide from or are either too complex for you to face. It is a tight rope. A path that can easily drive you off course. And you need to be careful. You need to find yourself instead of losing yourself. This is not the best place to be in life. Insecurities denies people opportunity to see life as life. It presents a life you don’t know. A life where you cannot be yourself. A point where you are not authentic. You have struggles and you don’t know the right way to solve them. So life is not sweet when you have insecurities. Life at this point is not what you want. There is something missing and you don’t know what is missing. Today, I share five things you can implement to overcome insecurities.

Face Your Emotional Roller Coaster

Insecurities have their underlying causes. This is what you need to face. The underlying cause of your insecurity. The underlying cause could be something internal. Forces inside you that are working hard to pull you down. Things that are holding you back emotionally or psychologically. Face these things. Get to the bottom of the thing that is giving you mixed emotions. You want to make progress but you don’t have strength to achieve progress. You are stuck somewhere and the thing holding you back is eating into your beautiful life. It is standing in the way of your happiness. Blocking your voice. Stealing your joy. You just cannot find anything that makes you happy and gets you satisfied. Something is bothering you. Something is making you insecure. Find this emotional roller coaster, and face it.

You will not travel your journeys safely if, you have some kind of insecurities. Life will not have meaning or sense. Insecurities will rob you. So you must face these things to free yourself. Travel inside your life. Go to your childhood and every other stages you have gone through life. Find the underlying cause of your insecurity. There is always a cause. You need to find that cause and face it. Deal with it. Come to terms with it. If, there is any kind of childhood trauma, you need to face it. You need to come to terms with how that insecurity is affecting you. All the freedoms that is denying you. The joy of life. Having peace of mind. And just enjoying life as it is supposed to be lived. If, insecurities are making you miss out, then you need to make a decision as you. This is when you stop any form of blame games and go at these emotional roller coasters as yourself.

You want to close this case. You want your life back. You want your control back. And you want to be sane. You want to make decisions as you without influences from the past or trauma. If, you have said enough is enough, face those internal issues. Face the trauma that is making you lesser. Everything that is making you feel some level of inadequacy. You need to face them. You need to get over them. You need to make a decision as you to walk past your trauma and fears. You need to create a pathway that frees you from things that are beyond your control. Fight for your life. Stand up for your life. Believe for your life. You cannot continue living unsatisfied. You deserve a full life. A life with enough opportunities and challenges. You deserve a balanced life. Overcome insecurities. Face the root causes of those internal struggles.

Find Your Identity

Insecurities will create a false identity for you. An identity that does not define you. They will create artificial things for you. Things that give you short-term satisfactions. You must refuse these kind of games. You must fight for what is truly yours. You have your own unique identity. An identity that captures your personality and the being that you were created. Your strengths and talents. Your uniqueness to the world. Insecurities will steal all these things if, you allow them to rule over you. Insecurities will take your energy. Your dreams. Your aspirations and imaginations of a different circumstance than what they are showing you. There is a world out there for you. There are interesting things happening in the world. Things that you love. Things that you will enjoy. And insecurities are standing in the way. Find your identity.

You deserve to know who you are and your capabilities. Your potential. Your strengths and what those strengths can do for other people. You deserve to be you. You deserve a great life. You deserve happiness. Fight insecurities. Find out who you are and live that person. Live that identity to the fullest. Your life is yours to live and enjoy. Invaders should not stand in the way of your dreams. Discomforts should not push you out of the game. You deserve to be in the game until the game comes to an end. No one or nothing should force you out of life. That is what insecurities do. Force you out of life. Force you out of things that you enjoy. Insecurities want you to remain a small man. A small person. A small being that is struggling to be seen. You don’t need to struggle for anything. You deserve your life. Find yourself. Beat insecurities by pushing past their tricks and obstacles.

Develop Confidence

Insecurities make you less confident. You live not having enough confidence in anything. You cannot go out and have a good time because you are worried of how you will be perceived. You just cannot do anything that you want to do freely. Insecurities will bring up something that will make you not feel enough. You need to develop confidence in you. You need to develop confidence in your decisions. You need to develop confidence in your skin and strengths. No one is judging you. No one is looking at you. Go out and have fun. People are busy with their lives. People are preoccupied with things that matter to them. You too be preoccupied with things that you love. Don’t accept lies no more. You are worthy. You are okay. You are handsome the way you are. You are beautiful. Don’t settle for anything you don’t like.

Find ways to regain your confidence. Start participating in activities that bring you joy. Activities that make you see life from a positive angle. There is so much in life. Insecurities should not hold you down. Nothing should steal your confidence. You need to develop confidence in you. You need to start being bold. You need to start making big decisions. Decisions that you were once afraid of making. Start doing things that you could not do before. Things that made you feel inadequate. Start doing those things. Start fighting the battles you have been postponing. Do things that will secure your health. Do things that put you in charge. Make decisions that depict you as the head. Be in the frontline. Lead. Join big conversations. Be at the center of important inventions and discussions. Get out of the sideline. Develop confidence in yourself. Don’t live a coward any longer. Insecurities cannot conquer.  

Choose Growth

Yes, choose growth. Make meaningful progress. Stop listening to some voices and people that make you small. You are your own person. There is something that you can do. You have a role in this big world. You have a place in the world. Your contributions are needed in the world. You are important somewhere. You are important in the big world. Start doing things that you like. Create things. Live your dream. Pursue your career. Do not allow insecurities and its accompanying counterparts to hold you down. Insecurities will drive you to depression. You can easily begin doing self-destructive things. That is what insecurities want you to become. A useless human being. But you are not useless. You are not stupid. You are an awesome person. You have something in you for the world. Bring out that thing. Choose growth.

Choose to grow. Choose to overcome insecurities. Choose to fight for what you deserve. Live a life you deserve. Get out the root cause of your insecurities. Free yourself from unnecessary bondage. Move forward. Don’t yield to fear. Don’t listen to suicidal thoughts. Don’t allow depression to take hold of you. Fight for your life. Start dreaming again. Go do the things that you have wanted to do all along. Come out of your hiding. Get out of your thoughts. Get out of the negative eco chambers. Find a new tune. Discover something new you like. Live the way you want. Don’t settle for limitations. Don’t live with limitations. Don’t accept obstacles. Don’t allow to be defeated. Choose growth. Choose progress. Choose to fight. Face your trauma. Make peace with it. Pick up the pieces. Enjoy life your way.

Seek Professional Help

If, you learn that the underlying cause is too complex, seek professional help. If, professional help is what it will take to overcome insecurity, go for it. Find the right professional. Go pay the price. Become better. Become healthy. Become you. Find you. Live you. Not the layers of insecurities or what other people say you should do. Become your own person. Be yourself. Make yourself the mastermind. Seek professional help to solve your trauma. Work with the right people to regain your confidence. Seek the help that you deserve to experience life as an equal opportunity member of society. You have a place in this society. Nothing should hinder you from taking your rightful place. Insecurity should not hinder you. Overcome it. fight it. Get it out of the way. Enough is enough. Stop struggling. Stop suffering.

Make progress. Live you. Don’t be in the shadow. Show up in the limelight. Be the headline. No more hiding. No more living unfulfilled. Go for professional help. Overcome insecurities. Beat insecurities. Get out of your head. Come outside. Come see the sun. The stars are beautiful at night. Fight the thoughts that want to trap you. Become bold. Advocate for your needs. Speak up your mind. Tell insecurities they will no longer control you. Decide for you. Determine how far you go. You are now in charge and things are going to change. You are going to become better. You are going to become you. You are going to become a fighter. You will challenge insecurities. They will know what you are made of. They must vacate before you arrive. Don’t entertain insecurities. Overcome them. Uproot them from your life. They are unnecessary burden. You don’t have to carry this burden for ever. Offload insecurities in the nearest dustbin. Leave them there and never look back. Progress in confidence. Live with confidence. Dance with confidence. Dream with confidence.

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