BUILDING BETTER HABITS
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Research
According to research findings, at least 20-25
percent of married men cheat. And 10-15 percent of married women cheat.
Among the unmarried people, 30 to 40 percent of them cheat. Cheating in
relationships is some kind of unwritten rule. Married people don’t protect
their unions. And cheating is a problem that cuts across cultures, people, and
countries. Men and women cheat on their partners. But they cannot tell how
cheating begins. Both men and women have different accounts. Different stories
why they decide to cheat. Some people are not remorseful or even ashamed. There
are a lot of issues that individual persons come with in relationships.
Part of this post is to ask why married men in particular,
cheat so often compared to women. For example, in 2020, at least 1,135,000
people were married in the United States of America. Out of this number,
283,750 men and 170,250 women cheated on their partners. Further, six out of
1000 people got married in 2020. Out of the six people, close to two people
cheated among married men according to research. But why do people cheat? Is it because of bad
decisions, or there is something else that only men know? Marriage in its
traditional nature is not forced on anyone. There are only a small percentage
of people who find themselves in forced marriages. Perhaps due to some harsh
cultural practices. But in most cases, individual persons make decisions to
marry or not to marry. So why would you make this kind of decision by yourself
and still find audacity to cheat? today we tell you how to stop cheating in
relationships.
Respect
Respect has never been so important in life than in marriage.
The fact that two different people come together means different things. The
two people come from different divides of life. Some come from functional
homes, while others come from dysfunctional homes. And they all carry layers of
their families into the new union. It takes a lot of effort to shape an
ordinary human being into a modesty human being. Instilling respect in people
is hard work. Respect does not come naturally even when people are taught to
respect. People forget their manners all the time. Moreover, people also forget
to feed their characters. And as a result, society ends up with different types
of people. People who have a problem taking simple instructions. People who
need 101 remainders. And some people who cannot just listen.
And all these characteristics among people end up in a
relationship somewhere. And they bring with them uncultured behavior. They have
not just taken time to think about themselves and how they live their lives
every day. The fact that love is natural, and it happens when it wants,
complicates the matter further. Some people find themselves in a mismatch
setting. A good person married to a bad boy and vice versa. And when these
extremes collide, people cannot agree on anything. They are not compromising to
coexist. They have hard lines in the relationship. And there is no progress.
But love is kind. One party in the relationship develops some kind of hope.
Hope that maybe, the hard lines and bad behavior will be resolved. But there is
no respect. There is no restraint. And change is not happening.
But you got love. You want to keep your relationship. You
need to stop cheating and develop some level of respect. Respect for yourself,
and respect for your partner or family. You cannot be giving excuses all the
time. You cannot justify cheating. Cheating comes with character issues. If you suffer from character issues plus other factors, you can easily cheat. But
what does that act of cheating say about you? That you cannot be satisfied with
what you have? Or you just don’t know how to set boundaries? Everything looks
good to you. And you have no restraint. You have no respect for other people.
You don’t have respect for yourself. Marriage is a personal relationship. Made
of two people who love each other. At what point does love for the other person
vanish? How do you love two people at the same time?
Learn to be disciplined. Stick with what you already have.
And if you don’t like what you have, open a discussion about it. People are
gradually embracing practices and beliefs that convince them that they cannot
just be married to one person. They have to cheat. Third parties must be
involved. Men need to respect themselves. If, you are married you are married.
It does not matter what you see or what you hear. You are married. Respect your
union. Nobody forced you into this relationship. You made the decision
yourself. If you were not ready for marriage, you should have known. You
should have stopped rushing. You should have taken time to think about it. You
should have thought about you. And your core values. Respect yourself. Stop
giving excuses. Start respecting. Start changing.
Be The Adult
As a married person, man or woman, you need to be the adult.
You need to remember all the time that you are married. That you love someone
else. You vowed to someone else. You committed to someone else. You promised to
protect the other person. You entered into an institution where the ocean
currents only flow in one direction. You wanted to be bound with another
person. And you agreed to be bound by the law. You cannot suddenly begin to
disrespect the law and vows you gave the other person. The vows you exchanged
were not mere words. They meant something. And you cannot devalue those vows by
normalizing cheating in your relationship. You need to be an adult. To stop listening
and hearing things. And if, you still want to chase shiny objects. Be an adult
enough. End one.
End one relationship before beginning another. Stop hurting
other people. Be a good decision maker. Know what you want. Respect other
people. Respect the law. Respect the institution of marriage. Nobody called you
in the institution. You knew the rules. And here you are, cheating incessantly.
You need to create boundaries when it comes to these types of personal
relationships. There are no-go-zones. You need to respect your partner’s
friends. You need to respect your partner’s sisters or brothers if, he or she
has some. You cannot allow yourself to cheat with these groups. And you cannot
also allow yourself to cheat with other people. If you feel that you no longer
love someone, walk away. End the relationship. You need to start thinking and
behaving like a rational person. Be an adult.
Grow Up
You need to grow up. You need to stop pulling things from the
past and citing them as the reason for behaving in a certain way. Deal with
your character issues. Work on your integrity. Work on your manners. Start
thinking like an adult. Start recognizing that you live with other people.
Start knowing that you have a family. Grow out of some nonsenses. Take your time
before you make life changing decisions. Marriage is not easy. You also need to
know if, you are wired for marriage. If, marriage does not look perfect on you.
You don’t have to force it. It is not a matter of life and death. And you don’t
have to please anyone. Take your time to think through issues. Take your time
to run around alone. And make a decision when to stop meandering and have some
vision. Declare some things as vanity.
Start choosing your values. Start feeding your character.
Start minding your manners. Start growing up. Stop cheating. Respect your
union. Respect the law that brought you together. The people that believed in
you. The words that you said to the other person. Things that you said you will
sacrifice. Start being a man of your own word. A woman of your own words. Stop
cheating on your partner. Work on things that make you want to cheat. Stop
being idle. Stop staring at other people. Develop boundaries around your life.
Have some limits. Grow up. Start praying. Start reading. Find the right
company. Talk to the right people. Change your friends. Change things that make
you a bad person. Change traits that make you a charlatan. Respect yourself.
Start thinking. Find purpose. Anchor yourself on something. Stop engaging in
unfocused conversations. Grow up.
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