3 TIPS TO AVOID BEING A DOWNER

BUILDING BETTER HABITS

An unhappy couple arguing in public/Credit/Vera Arsic

Someone is trying to make progress. And you want to tear down that progress. Society is a very big place. And in that big place, we have all types of people including downers. People who only see negativity. People who cannot see any positivity. Their focus is to discourage others. Bring down people with their hyper criticism. Downers do not provide constructive criticism. Instead, they bring negative energy on the table. People with this type of trait are anti-progress. And you cannot be this person. You cannot be a downer. There are so many things you can do, and being a downer is not one of them. Downers have very specific problems and deficits. They are always running low on something. Such that, they are focused on other people not themselves. They see negativity in other people. You cannot build something in the eyes of a downer. There will always be something wrong.     

Get Some Knowledge

Knowledge really is a cornerstone. You cannot be a progressive person if, you lack knowledge. Most downers have some elements of ignorance. Some elements of prejudice. They lack structure. They are not build on something strong. They lack knowledge. They are stuck somewhere. And they are not ready to solve inadequacy. It is sad. We live in a world that is so advanced and modern. People should know better. Yet some people have chosen to remain ignorant. You want to use assumptions instead of facts. You want to use guess work. People want to rely on rumors to judge other people. They are busy spreading unfounded theories about things and people they don’t know. You got to stop being half-baked. You got to stop pretending. Get real information about things and people.

You need to find knowledge. You need to feed yourself with the right information. You need to stop pulling other people down. You need to stop being a downer. You need to make progress. You need to learn. Get some knowledge about things and people. Don’t just be quick to critique. Look around you. Someone has really worked hard. Someone is really doing some serious work. Someone has rolled up his/her sleeves. Someone has kept his/her head down. People are focused on what matters to them. They are looking for ways to go forward. People want peace to work on their problems. They want to get ahead. And they are focused on getting ahead. And here you are, talking about them. Bashing their strategies. Watering down on their lifestyles. That their lifestyles are not mainstream. Their habits are strange. That they are antisocial because they don’t come out to join the noise.

Get over your prejudices. Fill your emptiness with some knowledge. Find something constructive to occupy your mind. Shift your mind from always seeing negativity. Shift from your negative attitude and mindset. There are a lot of positive things happening. A lot of people are focused. A lot of people want order. And they are trying hard to maintain that order. And you want to rip down that order because you love being unstructured. Unstructured is your staple. And when you see order, you don’t see normal. So you focus on destroying good things that other people are building. You want things to remain the same. You want everyone to look the same. You want people to think the same. Your desire for constant will not work. Get some knowledge. Get over your ignorance. Learn some restraint. Learn some respect. Stop pulling people down. Stop destroying things. Stop being a downer.

Ask

Start asking. Ask questions. Find out why people behave the way they do. Start learning. Stop making assumptions. If, you don’t know something, ask. Finding out more about something is the best way to live with other people. Sticking with assumptions and prejudice will keep you behind. Ask information from the right sources. Stop using your rumor circles because that circle is not credible. Get credible information from the source. The subject whom you are hyper critical about. People you criticize and tear down every day. Ask them why they behave that way. Why they act that way. Change your attitude. Stop assuming. Stop spreading rumors. Stop being a downer. Start being credible. Start asking questions about things you don’t know. Start learning. Open up yourself to knowledge. Start seeing positives.

You cannot be bringing people down. You cannot be the one by talking behind their backs. You cannot allow yourself to be this toxic. And when the same people you talk negative stand in front of you. You got nothing to say. But you have so much to say when they are not there. You can spread a lot of half-baked information about them. You have a lot of negative attitudes towards them. You only see evil in them. You got to stop this behavior. You got to start growing up. You got to start thinking. You need to start using your common sense. You need to break your circle of negativity. You need to come out of your comfort zone. Get out of a web of mediocrity. Start asking. If, you don’t know things about people, ask from the right sources. Stop behaving as if, you know everyone in your neighborhood. Your neighborhood is not your business. Your business is yourself. Focus on you. Get over your ignorance. Get over your prejudice.

Idleness

The reason why you see so much negativity around you, is because you are idle. You have nothing important going on for yourself. So you have plenty of time to look around and talk around. You are so idle that, you wait for everyone else to leave to start checking out their stuff. You want to find their stuff and destroy them when they are gone. You are so idle that you have created enmity where it does not exist. No one is interested in you or your business. But you have a problem with those people who are not interested in you. Perhaps they even don’t know you. But you have a problem with them. You have created an enemy in your mind. And an enemy must be punished. So you plot for the enemy’s punishment. You are busy looking for ways to bring the ‘enemy’ down. You set traps.

You want people that don’t know you to fall. You want them to lose. You want their projects not to succeed. You are praying for their downfall. All they want is their peace of mind. Their attention to things that matter to them. They want to find ways to make progress. And you are not happy. You are not happy that they are so organized. You are not happy that they do not interact with you. So you have created enemies. Non-existent enemies. You need to stop being idle. You need to let other people be. You don’t have any enemies. You are just idle. That is why you are into other people’s business. You are allowing your idleness to make you toxic. And your toxicity has become so bad that, you want to harm other people. You want to pull down people you don’t know. You want to set traps to slow them down. Traps that will make them have a difficult time doing their work.

You need to get a life. You need to start minding your own business. You need to stop being a downer. You need to stop being an idler. Find something to do with your time. Stop making other people your business. Start minding your business. Stop being toxic. Stop letting your idleness make you envious of other people. Stop pulling people down. Stop talking negatively about other people. Stop attacking people who have nothing against you. Fix your idleness problem. Find something to do in this big society. Something other than gossiping and criticizing. Something helpful. Something that will make you a resourceful person. Start doing activities that make your contributions positive. Stop checking people negativity. Let people progress. Let people move forward. Stop trapping people. Stop plotting. Stop creating non-existent tensions and squabbles. Try to make progress yourself. Stop being a downer.